The affirmation of me as a beautiful, dynamic, sexual being was a happy byproduct of the relationship, especially after years of being exhausted, shrouded in diaper bags and stained clothing.
It's hard to know just how many kids have been in the middle of a parent's infidelity because we don't know how many people are cheating; estimates are from around 25 percent to as high as 70 percent.
No marriage is perfect, it will not always be "rainbows and butterflies"; it takes work to keep a marriage going. It takes humility, sacrifice, and a lot of energy. But when there are so many people ready to swoop in and make themselves available to your spouse with the simple click of a button, it almost feels like it is an impossible undertaking.
The question that came up repeatedly after our marriage dissolved was: Why? Why did I cheat on him? Why would I do such a thing to a man who was caring, funny and generous?
That torn nightie still sits in my lingerie drawer among all that I bought for myself afterward, a reminder that from ugliness can come beauty and from weakness incredible strength. Not to mention, a newfound love for lingerie and the color red.
Despite that, there are some major shifts afoot in the way we love, partner, become parents and indulge our sexual passions. Given that, here's what I predict, based on current trends and research, love and marriage will look like in the years ahead.
Then a little more time passes, and I remember life before I was trapped in a cycle of distrust and insecurity. I remember who I am, and what I want. I am so grateful for the reality I carved out for myself, and I regret nothing.
Last summer U.S. News and World Report quoted a survey finding that people involved in affairs spend an average of $444 per month on them. This includes such things as hotel bills, meals, and activities that they engage in with their extra-marital partners.
I lost a lot of sleep in between my daytime job, my new job in the bedroom, and the baby. It was exhausting and completely unenjoyable for me, but I was winning.
You want to have an affair. You haven't even been married long. Wait a sec, are you married or just roommates? You check and yep, your marriage license is in your nightstand drawer. The wedding video that cost $800 is covered with dust. No question -- you've made a lifelong commitment.
A good relationship isn't necessarily one in which you're both constantly striving for the best relationship possible... while keeping the garbage cans empty too. Sometimes a good relationship can just be not doing much with someone you love.
Most of my female friends have plenty of advice and suggestions when it comes to the topic of trust -- trusting their partner that is. But many guy...
Women have five options when it comes to cheating husbands.
The worst thing about getting cheated on is that the pain doesn't end when the infidelity does, or even when the relationship does. Once you've found out you were betrayed, kicked the loser out of your life and found yourself alone, you've got to face a whole new challenge.
If I found out that my husband had an Ashley Madison account (it's a site where married people try to meet each other for affairs, for you innocents), I would throw his laptop out the window.
There are many residual wounds that linger long after the affair for all couples but if the cheated-on person was given an STD this has many deeper layers of anger, hurt and betrayal, which further exacerbate the experience of infidelity.