It is impossible to know what goes on between two people, and what intricacies and intimacies might sustain them in the face of hurtful, dishonest, deceptive behavior. There are some clear-cut motivations, though, that keep people from calling it quits.
Because he has betrayed your love and trust in such a painful way, you may find it hard to believe anything he is saying.
Children shouldn't ever be asked to side with one parent over another. Even when parents haven't been the best, children tend to love them and want to stay connected. Their conclusions about their other parent need to be their own.
We know the typical telltale signs: weight loss, new music or food interests, the purchase of a new wardrobe. But if your affair radar is up -- because your partner's behavior just feels off or out of the ordinary -- here are 13 not-as-conspicuous signs you may be overlooking.
If I react now, it's game on for the ego, but game over for the relationship -- and I won't let the ego win, because it viciously guards a set of mistaken beliefs that drive me further and further away from the one thing I truly want the most: love.
Divorce at 42 means having the will to carry on after the biggest of heartbreaks, and the courage to believe that the best is yet to come. It means remaining grateful for my long-awaited beautiful son as we forge ahead on a road that has its bumps, curves and potholes, but never leaves us lost.
It's said you can't kid a kidder. But you'd also have to reach a pretty high bar to fool a couples counselor. We've pretty much seen it all. Fortunately for us, we don't have to reinvent the therapy wheel every time we meet a new couple.
We have a lot of fun watching these couples flirt, banter and reconcile, yet there's an absence of true emotion that left me feeling lighter than I should have in a play about jealousy, knowledge and the preservation of one's self in a marriage.
"Men are crafty, yes, and we help them by choosing to ignore the red flags in the relationship. If we're comfortable, and we like the guy, we're going to wear our blinders and hope for something more."
My commitment to honesty means that I share the secrets and dark thoughts that would otherwise quietly eat away at my sense of self-trust and integrity. Today, my secret is this: I love my husband, but I often want to cheat.
I have a little secret to lay on you: People are not interested in your messy divorce. Okay, maybe your parents and closest friend. Certainly it sucks for your children.
There's no magic bullet when it comes to healing from an affair. And there's no guarantee you'll be able to. Some marriages become stronger after a betrayal but affair work is nothing short of brutal.
I mean, yes, I'm in a better place than I've ever been after facing my ex-husband's infidelity and abandonment, but that doesn't mean I endorse that as a life-affirming event. I would have preferred a cruise.
Why is it so hard for people who admire Aldean from afar to accept his struggles, or those of any celebrity? There is no question that he suffered, he paid his dues and walked over the coals, and in one way or another he has reached the other side.
My first thought was my kids. Two pre-teen daughters. They were going to be without a mother. My first call was to my husband. My philandering husband.
If you aren't getting what you need or want from your loved one, instead of trying to convince him or her to change, why not change your approach to the situation? Why not be more pragmatic?