It is a truth widely known fact that if you're fortunate enough to have written and published a book and lucky enough to have people talk about it, comments will run the gamut from good to bad, with many shades of mediocre in between.
She is proud of several things about herself -- her heritage, her children, her friendships. But she can barely accept a compliment. She has worked hard to stop denying them outright, but her eyes betray her bashful "thank you."
Ownership is about taking full responsibility for our lives and for what shows up around us. We always have a choice about how we relate to what's going on and how we interpret the things happening around us and even within us.
Every person has flaws. Nobody is perfect and, quite frankly, who wants to be? Flaws and imperfections make you special, they make you unique and interesting. Flaws shape your character. You don't need to hide them, you need to embrace them.
When someone takes my photo and I ask them to contort in all sorts of uncomfortable positions to get the right shot, or when I'm raising my arm several feet above my head to get a selfie that makes me look thinner, what am I telling myself? What am I telling my daughters?
Fear has very real effects on the body, and these effects are meant to protect us from danger. In day to day life, a small amount of fear or insecurity can be beneficial, in that it keeps you on your toes and motivated.
Whenever I catch myself reverting to a place of doubt, I latch onto certain markers like my therapist's feedback as a reminder that my thoughts do indeed have their rightful place and that somebody somewhere is interested in what I have to say.
What follows is not a trick question: Would you rather feel exhilarated, grateful, humble, inspired, resolute, compassionate, and content -- or fearful, sad, worthless, jealous, angry, overwhelmed, and bored?
I always take in a person's looks first; I suppose we all do. My own insecurities are numerous, and it is impossible for me not to focus on other women and to compare myself to them, at least a little.
When you reach your goal or get close to it and trim down, it isn't easy adjusting to a new body image. Like others who have lost a lot of weight, I was confronted with a core issue -- standing up for myself.
I still have dreams about my back brace. I threw it out so long ago, but it is there when I meet new people whom I am unsure about, when my judgement is questioned, when my children's teachers chastise me for being late to pick-up.
To boost your confidence a bit, practice being a bit more out-going and assertive with your coworkers. Ask one of your colleagues out to lunch, join in a water cooler conversation, make a comment or raise a question at a meeting.