When you make room in your relationship to honor the possibility of outside attractions and the feelings they create, it can help you stay connected and engaged with each other instead of developing separate lives where you keep your attractions hidden. Being able to talk about scary topics like outside attractions can even help prevent affairs from happening.
One of the biggest fears that I think we all have is the fear of success, and the fear to discover our true essence and potential. What if you discover all that you really are able to achieve? What if you find a more direct way to successfully conquer your goals but where are you going to first need to test all your fears, prove your worth, your principles and your integrity?