Success happens when we go outside our comfort zone, stretch ourselves beyond recognized limits and experience new people, places and things. Success happens outside "normal", and the only way to reach it is to walk though failure without losing your enthusiasm.
I'm a longtime educator. Recently, I packed up my office at school to come home for the summer. I had collected cards and notes from students during the course of the year, written by those same teenagers we all accuse of being self-centered. They're not.
What are we doing? What would happen if we all stopped digging, catching up or wanting what we didn't have? What would happen if we chose to face the opposite direction -- to see everything we already have, everything we already are, as desirable and enough?