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Intimate Partner Violence

Signs Your Partner Is Too Controlling

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD | Posted 07.21.2015 | Women
Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD

Below are a series of questions about some of the controlling behaviors you may have experienced. (For a more complete list, please click here). Unhealthy domination by a partner is called coercive control. It's more than just occasional nastiness or bossiness -- it affects several areas of your life and causes you to change your behavior to keep the peace.

Do Abusive Men Change?

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD | Posted 07.09.2015 | Women
Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD

Sometimes a controlling man genuinely wants to change. Maybe he regrets having hurt his loved ones. Maybe he is tired of being angry, tired of feeling alone and misunderstood, and tired of monitoring another person. Maybe he is truly ready to change.

Woman's Powerful Video Shows The Devastating Reality Of Domestic Violence

The Huffington Post | Alanna Vagianos | Posted 07.09.2015 | Women

“I’ve been thinking long and hard, and contemplating whether to post this video," Emma Murphy says into the camera. "I finally decided after a lot...

What You Should Know About the Most Dangerous Week

Ariel Zwang | Posted 06.30.2015 | Impact
Ariel Zwang

It can be hard to understand how seeking safety can first lead to danger. When victims choose to leave a domestic violence situation, they have made one of the most courageous choices imaginable. Few people realize just how dangerous the week victims choose to leave truly is.

Giving Teachers the Tools to Help Build Resiliency

Brian F. Martin | Posted 05.29.2015 | Education
Brian F. Martin

We know what makes a person resilient if they experienced adversity in their childhood home- that is when one caring adult -- The One -- steps in to help them see the truth that they can't see for themselves.

Because of the Adversity I Faced in Childhood, There's Nothing I Can't Do!

Brian F. Martin | Posted 04.13.2015 | Healthy Living
Brian F. Martin

By Brian F. Martin and Kathleen Kendall-Tackett, Ph.D. A 16-year-old who grew up experiencing adversity in childhood said this to Brian Martin severa...

Love Hurts: What We learn From 'Beauty and the Beast,' 'Twilight,' and 'Fifty Shades of Grey'

Megan Maas | Posted 04.14.2015 | Women
Megan Maas

There is nothing new, unique, or even creative about Fifty Shades of Grey. It's just the latest installment of pop culture messages that teach girls and young women that truly hot and irresistible love includes some element of violence and danger.

Bold Action on Domestic Violence

Robert A. DeLeo | Posted 01.31.2015 | Politics
Robert A. DeLeo

Domestic violence month has come to a close and the calls to action spurred by the Ray Rice scandal have been hushed, but the tragic tide of domestic violence continues to sweep our nation.

What We Think About When We Think About Intimate Partner Violence

Sharon Stapel | Posted 12.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Sharon Stapel

We can make the voices of LGBTQ people a part of the conversation about intimate partner violence. Really, we have to. We want DVAM, and all violence prevention efforts, to include and to be led by LGBTQ folks.

30 Numbers That Prove Domestic Violence Is An American Epidemic

The Huffington Post | Alanna Vagianos | Posted 02.13.2015 | Women

The number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. The number of American women who were murdered by curren...

Decoding Excuses For Abuse

David Adams | Posted 12.17.2014 | Women
David Adams

It is important for everyone to become more savvy about abuser's excuses because many people unwittingly reinforce them in how we respond to the abuser's "explanations" for his/her violence, and to understand what taking real responsibility means.

At Least A Third Of All Women Murdered In The U.S. Are Killed By Male Partners

The Huffington Post | Melissa Jeltsen & Alissa Scheller | Posted 10.09.2014 | Women

It's a sobering fact. At least one third of all female homicide victims in the U.S. are killed by male intimate partners -- husbands and ex-husb...

Watch How Passersby React To Domestic Violence In Public

The Huffington Post | Robbie Couch | Posted 10.07.2014 | Impact

Warning: The video above features actors, but some readers may find the footage disturbing. In a revealing social experiment, passersby respond in...

Silence = Death: Coming Out of the Queer IPV Closet

Melissa M. Wilcox | Posted 12.06.2014 | Gay Voices
Melissa M. Wilcox

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Odds are, you'll hear about straight, gender-conforming women who are or have been abused by straight, gender-conforming men. Those stories are important, but they leave queer survivors and our abusers invisible just as we are the rest of the year.

The Real Questions We Should Be Asking About #WhyIStayed

Megan Foo | Posted 09.15.2014 | Teen
Megan Foo

Scrolling down these tweets, I couldn't help but wonder: how many more women bear the same brunt of intimate partner violence? How many more women struggle to break the vicious cycle of violence and reconciliation that keeps them holding on to abusive relationships?

#WhyIStayed Is Our Hashtag, Too

Sarah Prager | Posted 11.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Sarah Prager

"Why I stayed," as a statement, is genderless, but people fill in the blanks to think it means a woman staying with a man who is physically hurting her.

9/11: On Terror, Grief and Forgetting

Jay Dodd | Posted 11.11.2014 | Black Voices
Jay Dodd

What 9/11 did to us as a nation is solidify tensions of Brown/Black bodies carrying terror. From the security line to workplace to college campuses, brown bodies are policed and monitored. But this is how we are. This is the America we foster and develop.

Change Culture, Not Cabs: Woman-Only Taxis and Commodifying Female Fear

Soraya Chemaly | Posted 11.08.2014 | Women
Soraya Chemaly

It's the car version of a million "don't get raped" products. Most solutions advocating segregation are variations of "shrink it and pink it" consumer product and public space design that suggest women have to take themselves out of spaces shared by men or risk the consequences.

Guns, Intimacy and Tragedy for Women

K. Sujata | Posted 09.15.2014 | Impact
K. Sujata

Put simply, the presence of guns dramatically increases the probability of death in incidents involving domestic violence. In 2011 almost two-thirds of women killed with guns were killed by their intimate partners.

Lies, Damned Lies, and Statistics

Joan Meier | Posted 08.26.2014 | Parents
Joan Meier

Society needs to come to grips with the reality of the risks some fathers pose for children -- and put away the childish fantasy that Fathers Know Best.

Benevolent Stands

Megan Kashner, LSCW, MBA | Posted 08.03.2014 | Impact
Megan Kashner, LSCW, MBA

In our lifetimes, almost 30 percent of women will find ourselves the victim of domestic violence. While that statistic is unnerving, it calls to light the fact that every day when we're at work, in class, at a movie, we're there alongside women who have persevered and decided to stand up after someone tried to bring them down.

Being Honest About Sexual Violence in War, and Everywhere Else

Gary Barker, Ph.D. | Posted 07.28.2014 | Impact
Gary Barker, Ph.D.

For all the sexual violence that happens in conflicts carried out by combatants or soldiers, it happens even more often in the world's bedrooms or homes.

Addressing Campus Sexual Assault Must Be a Coordinated Effort

Tony West | Posted 07.13.2014 | College
Tony West

We know that a coordinated community response -- one that relies on partnerships with student groups, campus police, community victim services organizations, campus ministries, and school officials -- is what is required to turn the tide on this issue.

Maren Sanchez and Rage as the Male Emotion

Ariel Chesler | Posted 07.01.2014 | Women
Ariel Chesler

Following the recent killing of Maren Sanchez, a 16-year-old honor student in Connecticut, by a fellow student -- Chris Plaskon -- who was apparently in love with her, everyone is searching for root causes for such violence.

Maren Sanchez and the Gender Gaps No One Is Talking About

Soraya Chemaly | Posted 06.25.2014 | Women
Soraya Chemaly

We have a national problem with not expecting or teaching boys to control themselves when they are quite clearly biologically capable of doing so. That's a gap no one is talking about on Sunday morning news programs.