One day, you realize how absurd your current mindset is, that this shit doesn't matter. You let your demons go, knowing that, perhaps, sharing your story can help some other chubby, goofy, socially-isolated, sensitive kid getting bulled in America who feels like no one in the world cares about him.
Bullying behavior might be more pervasive in professional sports than in the general population, because athletes are conditioned early on to learn that a legion of admirers will coddle them and cater to their needs.
A few key names to consider: Richie Incognito, Chris Christie, Michael Dunn; the Baruch College fraternity boys. What do they have in common, this odd group of disparate males? Bullying. Unacceptably aggressive behavior. "Boys will be boys" mentality. Yes, it's a motley crew.
People have said that the harassment may have stopped had Martin used his 6'5" 312 pound frame to body slam the bullies. But, let's be honest for a second.
Ironically, the same folk that are calling Sherman a thug are the same folk that called Jonathan Martin a "sissy" for taking a professional and personal stand against harassment.
Of course there are the stories that revealed the brutal and often ugly nature of the games and their athletes. These are the stories that can stay in 2013 and hopefully never come back. But let's start with The Good.
Perhaps the scandal will lead to a revision of locker room culture and coaching methods so that allowing a diversity of personalities can be more widely shown to achieve the same winning results as worship of the fanatically macho myth.
Knowing there is a problem is not enough. Rallying around a common goal to produce the desired result is the way to go. While Bayless's passion is clearly evident it's not enough to solve complex problems.
When Miami Dolphin Jonathan Martin complained he was bullied by teammate Richie Incognito, the public chose sides in a way we have not seen before in recent bullying stories.
The media has consistently been all over this story since it surfaced, and we at TheLegalBlitz.com thought it best to call in the pros for a proper analysis of some of the sports law issues at hand.
Richie Incognito should be ashamed of himself. But if we, as a society, continue to allow the warped locker room culture and definition of manhood that spawned Incognito, we should all feel ashamed.
True, when it comes to grownups, we usually refer to it as harassment and not bullying. But come on, people. Keep your eye on the ball here. Don't get distracted by the semantics and miss the substance.
In order to effectively respond to and prevent bullying among youth and similar behaviors among adults we must not lump them all in the same pot.
We need to ask ourselves why the cries of Jonathon Martin took so long to hear. Where were his teammates, coaches, and the rest of people in the Dolphins organization?
The Richie Incognito-Jonathan Martin incident -- both on and off the field -- reveals a culture where the "rules of the game" at best tolerated and at worst endorsed a "Wild West" culture of meanness, hazing, bullying and anything-goes.
The debate swirling around Jonathan Martin and Richie Incognito has gone well beyond the sports pages and involves far more than the "code" of the NFL locker room.