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Matthew 7, Leviticus 20, and the Christian Catch-22

Stephanie Mott | Posted 01.30.2015 | Gay Voices
Stephanie Mott

I am not anti-Christian when I stand up for LGBT rights. I am anti-bigotry. The fact that someone identifies as a Christian has nothing to do with it. There is no war on religion. It is a war on discrimination. Nothing more. Nothing less.

7 Ways to Practice Self-Acceptance

Michelle May, M.D. | Posted 01.29.2015 | Healthy Living
Michelle May, M.D.

Remember, what you practice, you get better at. When you chose to practice self-acceptance, compassion, and kindness toward yourself and others, you'll cultivate peace, courage, and joy. That's a habit worth getting good at!

Why Are People So Annoying?

Wray Herbert | Posted 01.29.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

The fact is that modesty, or even self-effacement, can be more effective than bragging in creating a good first impression. Most of us know this from being on the receiving end, yet we still err on the side of self-aggrandizement. But why do we get it wrong so much of the time? Here's where some new research may be illuminating.

In the Bully Pulpit: 'It's the Right Thing to Do.'

Wray Herbert | Posted 01.28.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

Strangely, given the importance of public opinion to successful governing, there has been little work done on the impact of how leaders frame and justify their decisions. Two psychological scientists at Berkeley's Haas School of Business are trying to change that.

6 Common Mistakes Parents Make

Rebecca Mckown | Posted 01.23.2015 | Parents
Rebecca Mckown

The common core message here is to love, respect and listen to your child. At any age, we are all learning and have the power to learn from and teach one another.

Coffee Confessionals

Megan Morton | Posted 01.21.2015 | Parents
Megan Morton

It sure feels good to get things off your chest. What feels even better? Not having to apologize or make an excuse for any of it.

How to Not Get Caught Up in What Other People Think of You

Stephenie Zamora | Posted 01.06.2015 | Women
Stephenie Zamora

People are always going to be judging us, so are you really going to let them hold you back? Will you let them hold you back from doing what you want to do, and showing up how you want to show up in the world?

How a Dating Buddy Can Transform Your Search for Love

Ken Page | Posted 12.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Ken Page

Clients who ask for -- and listen to -- the advice of wise, loving friends have more successful lives. Dating may be a lonely journey, but you don't have to take it alone. Having a dating buddy will definitely make it more fun.

3 Tips to Work Smarter When Your Disconnected

Tracy Crossley | Posted 12.11.2014 | Business
Tracy Crossley

How many books have most of us read on leadership, performance, or marketing, for business? What about psychological books, or perhaps, we've even drifted off into the area of new age Law of Attraction books? We are always in search of the answer.

The Place of the 'Able' in Disability Activism

Sarah Blahovec | Posted 12.09.2014 | Women
Sarah Blahovec

While the voice of the "able" is very welcome in a discussion of disability, those who actually deal with disability and discrimination should not be afraid to speak up and voice their opinions and concerns.

Are You a Political Extremist?

Wray Herbert | Posted 01.04.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

The results taken together are consistent with a view of the political extremist as thoughtful and confident, not unthinking. This does not mean of course that extreme political positions are necessarily sound or that they are not biased in other ways, but it does raise doubts about the mindless ideologue stereotype.

Is Powerlessness the Key to Successful Negotiation?

Wray Herbert | Posted 12.23.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Leigh Steinberg, the inspiration for the title character in the film Jerry Maguire, is one of the most successful agents in the history of American sports. He is also a master negotiator. Psychological scientists believe they may have an explanation for Steinberg's seemingly irrational behavior and for its ironic success.

The Comparer's Prison

Rena DeLevie | Posted 12.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Rena DeLevie

I make the same typo every time I type one specific word: Comaprison. This is actually Comparison. But aren't they the very same thing?

Remember Me: Personal Legacy and Global Warming

Wray Herbert | Posted 12.15.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Many people have a need to be remembered well, even if that motivation is hidden, so sparking it can shift the focus to future others. Public policies that encourage futuristic contemplation might be one tool for stemming the ravages of climate change before it's too late.

Vacuuming With Pearls

Megan McDonough | Posted 12.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan McDonough

Illusions of what a holiday should look like, how clean our house should be, the clothes our children should wear, the schools they should attend, the raise we should get at work, and how we think our boss should treat us all cause strife. Stress arises when our thoughts fight what is.

Why I Want My Daughter To Curse

Lorne Jaffe | Posted 12.02.2014 | Parents
Lorne Jaffe

I'm not ready for Sienna to have her mom's sailor mouth, but eventually, when she's a teen, I don't want her to be afraid of speaking the language of her classmates and once she reaches adulthood, I hope to be ready for her to speak such words in my presence as part of normal conversation because the reality is that cursing is ordinary and sometimes, often even, acts as a release for pent up stress.

Unnecessary Judgments Impact Forward-Progress

S. L. Young | Posted 11.26.2014 | Business
S. L. Young

If someone's idea(s) don't make sense to you, don't quash it; instead, help an individual evaluate options to determine if their idea(s) can and sometimes should be further developed.

Your Reflection Is Perfection

Nicole Glassman | Posted 11.25.2014 | Women
Nicole Glassman

I remember the day like it was yesterday. I stood at the foot of their bed when my dad interrupted me, "Are you getting a little chunky there?" He pointed to my stomach. I looked down sheepishly and said, "No, I am just standing funny." I wondered what he meant. I was only eight years old.

Breaking the Rules -- And Feeling Good About It

Wray Herbert | Posted 11.25.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Intriguingly, people don't lie and cheat indiscriminately -- simply because they can get away with it. Even when there is no chance of being found out, people show some level of aversion to acting unethically. They want it both ways: to profit by dishonesty, but also to preserve some sense of themselves as moral beings.

Finding the Magic From My Soapbox

Audrey Hayworth | Posted 11.22.2014 | Parents
Audrey Hayworth

If you don't know the parent you are judging, just stop. And if you do know them, proceed with kindness.

A Happiness Experiment: The Good, The Bad And The Miserable?

Janice Taylor | Posted 11.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Janice Taylor

I don't know about you (although I could make a guess), but I have super powers -- an innate ability, a real knack for the "miserable." I have the power to be in a bliss state, and in a New York minute, I can and do turn supreme happiness on its ear.

If We Get Out Of This Rite Aid Alive

Kelly Fig Smith | Posted 11.12.2014 | Parents
Kelly Fig Smith

You forget what the first two stages of grief are and decide to land squarely in stage three: bargaining. You'll buy him a new toothbrush. A candy bar. A pony. Whatever he wants, if for the love of God he stops throwing up now. This instant. Immediately.

Quiet Friend Judging You

Reductress | Posted 11.11.2014 | Comedy
Reductress

After a long period of silence, your friend Amanda has silently confirmed that the entire time you thought she was sitting there quietly listening, she was, in fact, judging you.

Labors Lost? Memories of Childbirth

Wray Herbert | Posted 11.05.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Nobody questions the physical intensity of labor and childbirth, but how do we know how painful the experience really is? Does recall -- especially months and years later -- accurately reflect the experienced pain?

Sofia Vergara Haters -- Just Shut Up!

Tammy Bleck | Posted 10.28.2014 | Fifty
Tammy Bleck

Would we be having this discussion if Hugh Jackman had been displayed shirtless on that rotating pedestal? I think not. This was tongue and cheek, people. A parody. A lark. And a creative way to present a boring part of the show. Geesh!