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Judgment

On Being A Social Pariah - Part 1 "Perception is Powerful. Compassion is Calm."

Lulu Salavegsen | Posted 05.22.2015 | Divorce
Lulu Salavegsen

There comes a time in life when you have a choice...to laugh and let go. Don't get me wrong, there are times I want to fashion the biggest mirror possible, and hold it up to the people with the thinnest of projections; but I don't.

Impossible Knowledge: Are You an Expert?

Wray Herbert | Posted 05.22.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

I grew up with a habitual overclaimer. He wildly exaggerated his expertise, at times claiming knowledge of things he couldn't possibly know -- people, events, ideas that simply do not exist. We're all familiar with these people who feel the need to overestimate what they know about the world. What underlies such assertions of impossible knowledge?

3 Ways to Have More Positive Interactions

Alicia T. Glenn | Posted 05.19.2015 | New York
Alicia T. Glenn

Those experiences caused me to reflect on how I react. I asked myself, how can I better my responses to help defuse frustrating situations?

How You Can Help Someone With Mental Illness: What to Do First

Farsh Askari | Posted 04.30.2015 | Healthy Living
Farsh Askari

Instead of an assessment (which implies judgment) and advice (which implies expertise), what someone who's mentally distressed, in any context, needs first, mentally and emotionally, is some acknowledgment and support.

To the Mom Throwing Shade

Jacqueline Wilson | Posted 04.27.2015 | Parents
Jacqueline Wilson

You know I saw you because you were directly in my line of sight. You clearly intended for me to see and hear you, so there was no reason to move your eyes away when I looked directly into them. While you sat there basking in your self-righteousness, I was barely holding it together.

I Almost Never Know The Things I Think I Know

Emily Ballard | Posted 04.20.2015 | Women
Emily Ballard

My teachers are 3-year-olds and 4-year-olds and 5-and-6-and-7-year-olds. I get schooled by chefs and servers and guys smoking butts on the street. And today, it was The Lady In The Red Pontiac.

Hasty Pudding

Marcia Liss | Posted 03.28.2015 | Comedy
Marcia Liss

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Dear Christians: Take Off Your Halo and Reach Out Your Hand

Christine Carter | Posted 05.02.2015 | Religion
Christine Carter

I don't understand how some of us think we have the right to separate ourselves from the world, but we do. I get that maybe you don't want the worldly things to infiltrate your existence, but the truth is -- they WILL.

For Me, There Is No Mommy War

Meredith Ethington | Posted 04.22.2015 | Parents
Meredith Ethington

My guess is that the mothers before us judged each other, too... but it was usually judgment behind closed doors, or maybe a whisper to their best friend about a neighbor; nothing like moms experience in this day and age, because we're all too accessible to each other.

Hungry? Maybe Don't Go Shopping

Wray Herbert | Posted 04.21.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

A team of psychological scientists wondered if hunger might spill over into other behavioral domains, sometimes in irrational ways. Is it possible, that is, that hunger triggers an acquisitive mindset generally, one that piques our desire even for non-food? The scientists explored this provocative idea in several experiments.

Some Small Truths About Brian Williams' Big Lie

Michael J. Formica | Posted 04.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Michael J. Formica

While Mr. Williams' didn't really do anything differently than what we apparently all do every day, his cultural standing amplifies his indiscretion, making his actions seemingly all the more egregious.

Don't Let the Headphones (Or the Extra Fat) Fool You

Karen Ann Kennedy | Posted 04.19.2015 | Women
Karen Ann Kennedy

This was a good reminder to me about the importance of not judging a book by its cover. It was a good reminder that you can never really know where someone has been, what they're going through, or what they are working towards in their life.

On Turning Outward and Being Intentional

Richard C. Harwood | Posted 04.08.2015 | Impact
Richard C. Harwood

We all want to achieve a sense of meaning in our own lives. But to find that path -- and make it real -- you must turn outward. After all, you cannot pursue your true desires if you are facing in the wrong direction.

Sound of Intellect: The Psychology of the Elevator Pitch

Wray Herbert | Posted 04.07.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

Scientists Nick Epley and Juliana Schroeder believe there is something about speech that conveys not just the content of a person's mind but the capacity for reasoning, thoughtfulness and intellect. If they are right, job seekers should appear more thoughtful and intelligent when given the opportunity to speak, rather than write, about themselves. That's what they set out to test.

End the Mommy Wars!

Jacqui Zadik | Posted 04.05.2015 | Parents
Jacqui Zadik

I love reading. I'll read anything. Cheesy romance novels, New York Times Best sellers, magazines, blogs. I even read the side panel of my tampon boxe...

Kenny, a Truck and a Life Lesson

Rebecca Mckown | Posted 04.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Rebecca Mckown

Once we can love and honor ourselves as we are we will be lifted up from the confines of judgment. Value yourself and the world will value you -- just the way you are even if you are different.

Matthew 7, Leviticus 20, and the Christian Catch-22

Stephanie Mott | Posted 03.31.2015 | Gay Voices
Stephanie Mott

I am not anti-Christian when I stand up for LGBT rights. I am anti-bigotry. The fact that someone identifies as a Christian has nothing to do with it. There is no war on religion. It is a war on discrimination. Nothing more. Nothing less.

7 Ways to Practice Self-Acceptance

Michelle May, M.D. | Posted 03.31.2015 | Healthy Living
Michelle May, M.D.

Remember, what you practice, you get better at. When you chose to practice self-acceptance, compassion, and kindness toward yourself and others, you'll cultivate peace, courage, and joy. That's a habit worth getting good at!

Why Are People So Annoying?

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.31.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

The fact is that modesty, or even self-effacement, can be more effective than bragging in creating a good first impression. Most of us know this from being on the receiving end, yet we still err on the side of self-aggrandizement. But why do we get it wrong so much of the time? Here's where some new research may be illuminating.

In the Bully Pulpit: 'It's the Right Thing to Do.'

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.30.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

Strangely, given the importance of public opinion to successful governing, there has been little work done on the impact of how leaders frame and justify their decisions. Two psychological scientists at Berkeley's Haas School of Business are trying to change that.

6 Common Mistakes Parents Make

Rebecca Mckown | Posted 03.25.2015 | Parents
Rebecca Mckown

The common core message here is to love, respect and listen to your child. At any age, we are all learning and have the power to learn from and teach one another.

Coffee Confessionals

Megan Morton | Posted 03.23.2015 | Parents
Megan Morton

It sure feels good to get things off your chest. What feels even better? Not having to apologize or make an excuse for any of it.

How to Not Get Caught Up in What Other People Think of You

Stephenie Zamora | Posted 03.08.2015 | Women
Stephenie Zamora

People are always going to be judging us, so are you really going to let them hold you back? Will you let them hold you back from doing what you want to do, and showing up how you want to show up in the world?

How a Dating Buddy Can Transform Your Search for Love

Ken Page | Posted 02.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Ken Page

Clients who ask for -- and listen to -- the advice of wise, loving friends have more successful lives. Dating may be a lonely journey, but you don't have to take it alone. Having a dating buddy will definitely make it more fun.

3 Tips to Work Smarter When Your Disconnected

Tracy Crossley | Posted 02.09.2015 | Business
Tracy Crossley

How many books have most of us read on leadership, performance, or marketing, for business? What about psychological books, or perhaps, we've even drifted off into the area of new age Law of Attraction books? We are always in search of the answer.