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Kate Fridkis

Why I Invited A Third Person Into My Marriage

Kate Fridkis | Posted 03.29.2013 | Weddings
Kate Fridkis

Marriage has all these tiny rules. Sometimes I don't know when I'm breaking them. Everyone else seems to have learned them better, even before they are married. And then sometimes it occurs to me that really, marriage is just as much about my husband and me as it is about itself.

Getting Offended Over Things That Happen in College

Kate Fridkis | Posted 08.19.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

If enough people get offended, maybe we'll stop universities from protecting the wrong people and leaving the people they've wronged vulnerable.

Learning to Love Being Soft

Kate Fridkis | Posted 08.07.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

It felt like the world was celebrating me for being hard, lean, and accidentally fit-looking. My body felt cutting edge. And then I started to get soft.

I Can Tell Where This is Going: Signs of Aging in my Twenties

Kate Fridkis | Posted 07.14.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

Maybe this is just what I look like at 26. Sometimes fresh, sometimes utterly tired. Sometimes taut, sometimes slackening. In flux. Which is what we all are, always, whether we know it or not.

Taking My Body for A Walk

Kate Fridkis | Posted 07.02.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

I wondered if I shouldn't have dressed my body in something so revealing. Maybe it wasn't the right body for that. It didn't have a lot of the things bodies that look sexy in revealing things have.

Meanness Isn't Motivation

Kate Fridkis | Posted 06.30.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

We need to stop believing that meanness is motivation.

What's Wrong With Being a Loner?

Kate Fridkis | Posted 06.24.2012 | Education
Kate Fridkis

Being good at being alone is so important. Why are we so afraid that kids will turn out to have the "wrong" personality? And why does being quiet so often get interpreted as the "wrong" way to be?

Wanting to Have a Baby in My Twenties

Kate Fridkis | Posted 06.06.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

In our society, motherhood and success are seen as distinct. We try to pretend we value everything equally while publishing op-eds about whether or not the sexual revolution was a good idea.

What Beauty Used to Mean

Kate Fridkis | Posted 05.05.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

I can look at my face in the mirror and describe to you at great length exactly what would have to change in order for me to be gorgeous. I am mathematical in my precision.

Why I Write About Body Image

Kate Fridkis | Posted 05.01.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

I write about body image because after I noticed that I was maybe not thin enough, I stopped eating some of my favorite foods. They slipped out of my diet. I felt guilty all the time,

I Don't Even Have A Daughter Yet -- But I Know I Don't Want Her To See This Ad

Kate Fridkis | Posted 04.11.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

But the model's so skinny, I keep thinking, unoriginally (don't worry, I know how unoriginal it is), but it's almost the ordinariness of the observation that makes it meaningful.

Getting to Know the Tiger Mom

Kate Fridkis | Posted 04.01.2012 | Parents
Kate Fridkis

I saw Amy Chua, the Tiger Mom, last night at the 92nd Street Y. She came off as earnest, humble, and extremely loving -- not at all the way she's been described.

Letter to a Newborn

Kate Fridkis | Posted 03.31.2012 | Home
Kate Fridkis

Dear Marius, First of all, welcome. Hey. You don't know me yet, but I'm a friend of your mom and dad. I am a little in shock, about you being here. ...

Let's Stop Waiting For A Better Body

Kate Fridkis | Posted 03.24.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

We act like we have a couple different bodies. There's the one you're in now, and then there's the one that's your real body.

My First Christmas With My New Husband's Family

Kate Fridkis | Posted 02.22.2012 | Religion
Kate Fridkis

The holiday season can be a little uncomfortable for me. People always wish me a merry Christmas, and then I'm not sure what to say back, since I don't celebrate it. Usually I just say, "Merry Christmas!"

I Didn't Become A Fairly Princess On My Big Day. So What?

Kate Fridkis | Posted 01.30.2012 | Weddings
Kate Fridkis

You know that moment in the movie where the nerd girl takes off her glasses and pulls down her ponytail and steps into a fitted, sparkly dress? She is transformed.

Are You 'The Pretty One?'

Kate Fridkis | Posted 01.22.2012 | Women
Kate Fridkis

I don't think there's something wrong with telling a little girl she's pretty. But we should remind ourselves that she can be more than just pretty -- and that her sister is listening.

8 Reasons To Love Your Body

Kate Fridkis | Posted 12.31.2011 | Women
Kate Fridkis

These are some reasons why you should feel good about your body: 1. It enables you to recognize yourself, and other people to recognize you. Which is...

Dear Three-Sided Dressing Room Mirror, ...

Kate Fridkis | Posted 12.05.2011 | Women
Kate Fridkis

Before I met you, I never thought that I in any way resembled a duck. Now I'm not sure.

How My Posture Messed Up My Wedding Photos

Kate Fridkis | Posted 12.04.2011 | Weddings
Kate Fridkis

Everyone wants to look perfect on their wedding day. I failed at this. In the five seconds of the wedding video that I managed to watch before rushing to shut it off, I appeared to be twitching.

1,000 Young Protesters, Angered by Troy Davis Execution, Take To NYC Streets

Kate Fridkis | Posted 11.26.2011 | New York
Kate Fridkis

On Thursday evening, what started as an Amnesty International vigil in honor of Troy Davis in Union Square soon became a full-blown march through the streets of New York.

Do We Need to Talk About Weight to Bond With Other Women?

Kate Fridkis | Posted 11.07.2011 | Women
Kate Fridkis

I realize I'm just saying that because it's the thing to say, because it is the way I've learned to communicate with other women.

Thoughts About Slut Walking

Kate Fridkis | Posted 09.26.2011 | Women
Kate Fridkis

There's something about SlutWalk that makes me a little, little bit uncomfortable.

An Interview About Body Image With the Author of New Hit Novel Skinny

Kate Fridkis | Posted 09.26.2011 | Women
Kate Fridkis

Skinny is the story of a young woman named Gray who struggles with guilt after her obese father's dramatic death. She begins to compulsively overeat, driven by an enormous hunger she can't sate.

What Men Lust After in July

Kate Fridkis | Posted 09.05.2011 | Women
Kate Fridkis

Last night, my brother and I were standing at the checkout counter at the CVS, buying batteries for our dad's insulin pump, and a row of magazines was...