When my daughter was in high school, she told me about a college friend who always made sure that if she texted one parent she would also text the other because if she did not, one parent would feel left out. I thought this was ridiculous. Now she is in college. "Did you get a text today?" I ask my husband.
My husband and I are no longer the first call our kids make when facing a big decision -- their relationship partners have taken on that role -- while we do come in second for that additional wisdom or support that may be needed. But they are clearly guiding their own ships in life -- ships that are strong, well built, and durable in case a storm or two should arise.