I decide I've been looking in the wrong place for God and begin to morph my beliefs with reincarnation. The books I read tell me that we keep coming back, life after lifetime. This terrifies me because it means that if I don't heal the eating disorder in this life I'm gonna come back and face it again.
As I see it aging with grace gives you plenty of wriggle room in your second half. Pole dance in hot pink lycra if that's your thing. Or quietly live out a lavender life. All it asks is that you come from a place of love in everything you do -- for yourself, for others, and for life itself. Nothing outdated about that!
While we have the power to reinforce optimism through a small gesture, it also means one wrong move can be hard to recover from. We will get our feelings hurt and feel unappreciated, and despite our best intentions, we will also make someone else feel that way. Anyone who braves the world risks disenchantment.