Rarely, if ever, do we ask how those women without high wages, paid leave, affordable child care, or flexible schedules juggle their desperate need to earn money with caring for their family. But this is the big question that we all should be asking, because it turns out that there are real consequences for all of us.
When I got divorced in 2010, I had a chance to step outside this "don't get attached" pattern as I reorganized my life. I began to invest more time in my surroundings so that they reflect a truer picture of who I am. As luck would have it, I met a creative new friend, my Lean In co-moderator Kaylynn, who is a fashion and photo stylist. Kaylynn helped me transform my home physically and insisted that I truly "move in."
It's all a matter of perception and communication. When children are home they often see mothers preparing meals, helping with homework, folding laundry and doing other tasks that seem familiar, easy and routine. They're not as aware of what else mothers out of the full-time workforce do while children are at school.
I see it as my job as mom to help my girls be who they naturally are and to live out their lives, not those that "they" have prescribed are acceptable for her. I see it as part of my job as a media professional to help girls see positive images of themselves and to help young women become more of what they want to be.