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Lesbian Mothers

In Adoption and Same-Sex Parenting, Who Is the 'Primary' Mother?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Answering this for myself required taking an honest look at my own experience of two mothers, one adoptive, one biological. What makes a mother "primary"? What makes a mother real?

Three Moms, One Child and a New School Year

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 12.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

This a story of a mother with two mothers who is raising children with another mother and an ex-partner mother. That's a heck of a lot of mothers! Combine these admittedly confusing family dynamics with the start of the school year and you've got a situation that's complicated at best.

Who Is In a Gay Family?

Amelia | Posted 11.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

"Are you a gay parent?" asked the stranger. Without a second's thought, I responded, "Yes! My 8-year-old son is gay." It wasn't until later that I realized that that wasn't what he was asking. He was asking whether I am a gay person who has kids. But that experience made me think about another.

Lesbian Mom On The Most Important Parenting Lessons She's Learned

Posted 09.25.2013 | Gay Voices

By Mary Malia for YourTango.com No girl starts life thinking, "I'm going to be a lesbian mom when I grow up!" As a child, if you're thinking about...

Seeking My Anonymous Sperm-Donor Father

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 12.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

I did once seek out my biological father. A front-page article had hit The New York Times, and I was suddenly spammed by 6,000 well-meaning friends emailing me about DonorSiblingRegistry.com.

'Won't Somebody Please Think of the Children?!' NOM Continues to Peddle Hysteria

Sunny Bjerk | Posted 11.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Sunny Bjerk

Organizations such as the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) continue to claim that children with gay parents suffer severe emotional and mental abuse, even going so far as to argue that they are more likely to become child molesters than children raised by heterosexual parents.

The Gayest Weekend Ever (PHOTOS)

Elizabeth Baudouin | Posted 11.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Elizabeth Baudouin

There's so much to be said about the road leading up to your aunts and your moms getting married in the same weekend, from pretending your mom was straight so that you could get through seventh grade to coming out yourself to a tribe of first-generation lesbians.

At the Center of the Rainbow Family Explosion

Brandon J. Bankowski, M.D. | Posted 11.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Brandon J. Bankowski, M.D.

We are humbled to do our part in helping the LGBTQ community start or grow their families. Helping same-sex couples, men and women who probably wouldn't have dared to dream a dream this big just a few years ago, is life-changing work as physicians.

'What Do You Call Your Moms?'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 10.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

This question is difficult, because it is both personal and political. This feels to me like the sophisticated version of the needling question "but which one is your real mom?" except of course this question, about who gets to be called "Mommy," is more legitimate.

After the DOMA Decision, We Face an Impossible Choice

Aly Windsor | Posted 09.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Aly Windsor

Do we stay in North Carolina and raise our children around extended family in a state that denies our family the rights and protections of marriage, or do we leave extended family, friends, jobs, and neighbors behind to raise them in a state that values and protects us just like any other family?

Witnessing History, With Children

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 08.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

Even while I'm reassuring my son this is a win, doubt whispers, "Really? This is it? What's the catch?" My marriage rights have been toyed with so many times over the past nine years, it's hard to believe someone won't pop up yelling, "Ha! Just kidding!" and send us back to the ballot box to start the fight again.

Lesbian Mom in Colorado Could Be Among First to Receive Green Card When DOMA Is Struck Down by Supreme Court (VIDEO)

Lavi Soloway | Posted 08.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Lavi Soloway

For Cathy and Catriona and their three children, everything is at stake. If the Supreme Court strikes down DOMA, Cathy could immediately receive approval of her green card application. If the law is upheld, she will be forced to move thousands of miles away from her spouse and children.

The Arsenal Is Empty

Jason Howe | Posted 08.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Jason Howe

Any Supreme Court victory for backers of Prop 8 and DOMA will be a Pyrrhic one. One by one, their arguments have been exposed as falsehoods and have no power as American society moves toward full acceptance of LGBT rights. Their arsenal is empty.

'Mom, What's Gay?'

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 07.31.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

I cannot tell you how many times in any given week I end up stuck between a grownup concept and a kid who wants an explanation that he can understand. How do you explain the difference between family love and romantic love to a kindergartener?

Gay Parents in Red States: Not an Oxymoron

Abbie E. Goldberg | Posted 07.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Abbie E. Goldberg

Many of the states with the highest percentages of same-sex couples raising children are those with the most anti-gay laws. Thus, lesbian and gay parents living in these areas encounter legal obstacles in building and protecting their families, which contributes to a sense of legal vulnerability.

Blogging for LGBT Families Day: A Celebration of the Season

Dana Rudolph | Posted 07.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Dana Rudolph

Blogging for LGBT Families Day sits almost exactly between Mother's Day and Father's Day, honoring both parenting titles but recognizing that not all families fit neatly into those two observances. There's a big spectrum out there.

An Invitation to Queer Parenting

Kimberly Dark | Posted 07.23.2013 | Gay Voices
Kimberly Dark

My mother may continue to cringe at the word "queer," but I invite you to consider the idea that queerness can be a pretty good thing. In the broad sense of the word, every person who has ever gone against social norms and values in order to improve them is queer.

Nobody Told Me Getting Pregnant Would Be This Hard

Jincey Lumpkin | Posted 07.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Jincey Lumpkin

I'm not pregnant. If I were 17, this would be cause for celebration, but when you are ready for a baby and you can't just materialize one, an empty womb feels like an empty heart.

Trans, Masculine-Of-Center And Gender-Nonconforming People Are Mothers Too (PHOTOS)

Kortney Ryan Ziegler, Ph.D. | Posted 07.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Kortney Ryan Ziegler, Ph.D.

With Mothers Day 2013 approaching, the California-based nonprofit Forward Together has created a series of ecards that reflect the diversity of motherhood and parenting, a gesture that traditional Mother's Day cards have woefully ignored. Check out a slideshow of the beautiful cards.

My Mother's Day Card To Gay Dads (And All LGBT Parents)

Rob Watson | Posted 07.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Rob Watson

My concern is for my kids and others like them in gay-dad-led or lesbian-mom-led families. They are left out in the hoopla surrounding either Mother's Day or Father's Day. They get the message that their family lacks something, but that is not true.

What It Feels Like To Have An Invisible Family

2013-02-28-brainchild1.jpg | Posted 05.07.2013 | Parents

Written by Ashley Davis for Brain, Child: The Magazine for Thinking Mothers “Are you helping mama with her errands today?” the grocery clerk as...

The Real Reason I Worry About My Daughter Dressing Like A Boy

Posted 04.25.2013 | Parents

Women in 24 cities across the country will participate in the reading series Listen to Your Mother in celebration of Mother's Day (May 12) this year. ...

I Got Gay Married In First Grade

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 06.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

The wedding went off without a hitch and, over the years, dissolved into a silly and cherished family memory. At that very time, unbeknownst to me, my moms were forking over time, energy and legal fees to make their union and joint custody of me as legal in the eyes of the court as a married couple's.

The Well-Charted Waters Of Same-Sex Parenting

Paul M. Smith | Posted 06.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Paul M. Smith

During the Supreme Court arguments in the Proposition 8 case last week, there seemed to be some confusion about the social science evidence concerning same-sex parents and their ability to raise children, but there is no "disagreement" among the experts about what the research says.

Marriage Equality: The 'Tri' In Our Kids' Trifecta

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 06.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

Our children know that for a few months in 2008, the law said "yes" to their family. Their moms are legally married (in California, at least). This legal recognition echoes and enforces what their moms and their community keep telling them: that we should be treated equally.