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Mom, Is 'Gay' a Bad Word?

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

B-Man leans forward and whispers in my ear, "When we were writing '-ay' words on our spelling boards today, someone wrote 'gay' and circled it as their favorite word. But someone else said 'gay' was a bad word. But it isn't, right?"

5 Signs You're the 'Other' Mother

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother?

The Perils of Heterosexual Rights

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Since fighting to be included in the heteronormative model of marriage and then being steamrolled by the heteronormative model of divorce, I've been fighting these systems from the perspective of the "other" mother.

In Adoption and Same-Sex Parenting, Who Is the 'Primary' Mother?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Answering this for myself required taking an honest look at my own experience of two mothers, one adoptive, one biological. What makes a mother "primary"? What makes a mother real?

'Won't Somebody Please Think of the Children?!' NOM Continues to Peddle Hysteria

Sunny Bjerk | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Sunny Bjerk

Organizations such as the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) continue to claim that children with gay parents suffer severe emotional and mental abuse, even going so far as to argue that they are more likely to become child molesters than children raised by heterosexual parents.

'What Do You Call Your Moms?'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

This question is difficult, because it is both personal and political. This feels to me like the sophisticated version of the needling question "but which one is your real mom?" except of course this question, about who gets to be called "Mommy," is more legitimate.

Witnessing History, With Children

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

Even while I'm reassuring my son this is a win, doubt whispers, "Really? This is it? What's the catch?" My marriage rights have been toyed with so many times over the past nine years, it's hard to believe someone won't pop up yelling, "Ha! Just kidding!" and send us back to the ballot box to start the fight again.

On SCOTUS Watch, With Children

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

I consider following up with the words Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. famously used, "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice." But I suspect K-Bird's too young to understand that. Then again, maybe he isn't.

'The Fosters' Star Discusses Playing A Lesbian And How Real Lesbians Have Reacted

The Huffington Post | Glennisha Morgan | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Sherri Saum of ABC Family's new sitcom, "The Fosters," which boasts Jennifer Lopez as executive producer, recently chatted with Elixher.com. Durin...

'Mom, What's Gay?'

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

I cannot tell you how many times in any given week I end up stuck between a grownup concept and a kid who wants an explanation that he can understand. How do you explain the difference between family love and romantic love to a kindergartener?

An Invitation to Queer Parenting

Kimberly Dark | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Kimberly Dark

My mother may continue to cringe at the word "queer," but I invite you to consider the idea that queerness can be a pretty good thing. In the broad sense of the word, every person who has ever gone against social norms and values in order to improve them is queer.

What I Couldn't Tell Another Mom About Our Family

Posted 05.22.2013 | Parents

When her two children were young, Jennifer Finney Boylan came out as transgender. As she transitioned from a man to a woman and from a father to a mot...

What I Know About Motherhood Now That I'm An Unconventional Parent

Polly Pagenhart | Posted 07.10.2013 | Parents
Polly Pagenhart

My children have felt not just tolerance, or comfort, but pride in our family -- not in spite of its difference, but because of it.

Trans, Masculine-Of-Center And Gender-Nonconforming People Are Mothers Too (PHOTOS)

Kortney Ryan Ziegler, Ph.D. | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Kortney Ryan Ziegler, Ph.D.

With Mothers Day 2013 approaching, the California-based nonprofit Forward Together has created a series of ecards that reflect the diversity of motherhood and parenting, a gesture that traditional Mother's Day cards have woefully ignored. Check out a slideshow of the beautiful cards.

Senate Bill 115 is Necessary to Protect Children and Fathers

Fred Silberberg | Posted 06.12.2013 | Politics
Fred Silberberg

The Uniform Parentage Act governs the determination of parentage of children who are born of parents that are not married.

The Zen of Miscarriage

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 06.12.2013 | Parents
Cheryl Dumesnil

How do you say goodbye to someone with whom you shared not a past full of memories, but a future made of fantasies? How do you make space for sadness when you're surrounded by messages, both internal and external, telling you to buck up and move on?

Lesbian Love: When Opposites Attract

Joanne Fleisher | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Joanne Fleisher

I never married the woman who shared my life for 31 years. My attraction to her was magnetic, and although she was nothing like me, we undoubtedly shared the experience of being female. We were two women attracted to each other's differences.

What My Kids Have Taught Me About Homophobia

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

So as my family progresses across the choppy emotional sea of social change, though I still face resistance every time I meet up with pain, instead of ignoring the hurt, I'm trying to make space for it.

WATCH: Texas Woman Has Jaw Wired Shut After Alleged Anti-Gay Hate Crime

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

A Texas-based lesbian claims she was beaten unconscious after coming to the defense of bullied child at a playground. WFAA reports that 27-year-ol...

My Two Moms: The Prospect Of Parenting

Robyn Harper | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Robyn Harper

While matters of gender and biology may be relevant to making a child, it is parenting that makes a parent. The ability and the desire to love a child unconditionally has nothing to do with one's gender.

'Parenthood Is A Path Of Emotional And Spiritual Growth'

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 03.12.2013 | Parents
Cheryl Dumesnil

Each time a parenting challenge has levied what could have been a knock-out punch to my sanity, I have grabbed that phrase like an oxygen mask and strapped it over my face. And it has worked. It raises that all-important question, "What do I need to learn here?"

30 Days Of LGBT Holiday Giving: Give A Gift To COLAGE

The Huffington Post | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Note: This holiday season, in lieu of a traditional holiday gift guide, we'll be featuring a different LGBT organization each day for our "30 Days Of ...

Married To a Man and In Love With a Woman

Joanne Fleisher | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Joanne Fleisher

It was 1979, and I'm not even sure I knew that a "straight" woman could fall in love with another woman. I thought I was the only married woman facing this kind of awakening. I was falling in love with a woman, but I didn't feel like a lesbian.

A Mom Of Two Boys Wrestles With Sandy Hook And Masculinity

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 02.25.2013 | Parents
Cheryl Dumesnil

A little more than 24 hours after a young man in Newtown, Conn., gunned down 20 children, their caretakers and his own mother, hearing my kids equate death with "boy stuff" takes the breath out of my lungs.

30 Days Of LGBT Giving: Donate To The Family Equality Council

The Huffington Post | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Note: This holiday season, in lieu of a traditional holiday gift guide, we'll be featuring a different LGBT organization each day for our "30 Days Of ...