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A Conversation on Lesbian Marriage

Kathryn Hamm | Posted 11.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Kathryn Hamm

After 28 years together Kim and Renate celebrated their legal marriage in the fall of 2013 and remain passionately thoughtful and engaged in questions of coming out, falling in love and helping couples move from the first blush, butterflies and excitement of a new relationship to the mutual respect, understanding and intimacy that grows after years of togetherness.

The Queer Life of Digital Dating

Joanne Fleisher | Posted 10.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Joanne Fleisher

Online dating isn't easy for most people, but it's really tough for older women. When I began my online search, I was elated to receive some immediate responses. Upon examining those first photos, I thought, "They are all old! Do I look like them?"

Our Big Gay Wedding | Posted 07.18.2013 | Weddings

As the day of our wedding clicked closer and closer (and there was a lot of clicking — we were engaged four and a half years, after all), it was eas...

Mastering in Love: LGBT Dating and the Journey to the Ring

Nicholas Marlin | Posted 09.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Nicholas Marlin

Instead of dating to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, date to learn more about yourself and what makes you happy. Make it less about getting the ring and more about discovering what makes you want to give someone a ring. And use each relationship to hone in on what your ideal life will be like.

Is This The Most Surprising Issue For Lesbian Couples?

Posted 07.05.2013 | Gay Voices

By Christine Dunn-Cunningham for Beth thought her girlfriend Sue had been acting differently. Ever since Sue started spending more t...

10 Things Lesbians Hate to Hear

Marissa Higgins | Posted 08.31.2013 | Gay Voices
Marissa Higgins

4. "Who's the guy in your relationship?" Ouch. Some aspects of the patriarchy simply don't apply in same-sex relationships, and someone having to be "the guy" in a lesbian relationship is one of them.

Haulin' the Fridge: This Is What Happens When You Try to Fake Love

Cindy Zelman | Posted 08.06.2013 | Gay Voices
Cindy Zelman

I'm sitting in an old truck, hauling a refrigerator -- olive-green, a throwaway from someone's basement, a 30-year-old refrigerator in the back of a 20-year-old truck. I'm sitting next to Jan, who's driving; we've been dating for three months, and already we're moving appliances together.

Homophobia and Statutory Rape: Kate's Not Alone

American Anthropological Association | Posted 07.24.2013 | Crime
American Anthropological Association

Lately, I've seen lots of headlines that disturb me, as a son of Indian River County, FL. For example, ABC recently reported that an Indian River "Cheerleader Denies Felony Charge for Lesbian Relationship." My

'Sometimes I Wish I Was a Lesbian...'

Marissa Higgins | Posted 07.23.2013 | Gay Voices
Marissa Higgins

Sometimes she says it sitting across from me in a coffee shop. Sometimes she sends it via text message. And then the conversation turns to the supposedly inherent errors of straight men and the taunting disconnect between men and women's needs. It's a fall back to the old stereotypes.

Sometimes A Butch Needs To Zip It: 12 Things You Should Never Say To Your Femme Girlfriend

Tristan Higgins | Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

We are the strong ones, the helpful, gallant ones. We reach things on the top shelf. We are obedient and faithful. As such, there are several things that should not escape our lips when addressing our femme.

Making Gay and Lesbian Relationships and Marriage Simple Through Ten Truths

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 06.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

Whether you're gay, lesbian or straight, marriage can be simple! Relationship science can make breakups and divorce a thing of the past.

Whatever You Do, Don't Do This

Danielle Ariano | Posted 03.04.2013 | Gay Voices
Danielle Ariano

We sure as hell don't introduce our sister's husband as her "friend." So please don't do it to me. When you do, you are ignoring all the other aspects of my relationship. You are diminishing, demeaning and desexualizing what I have with my partner, and it really makes me mad.

To Wed Or Not To Wed?

Stephanie Fairyington | Posted 04.15.2012 | Gay Voices
Stephanie Fairyington

My girlfriend is visiting my shrink with me so we can duke out our premarital differences, which can be boiled down to one, ever-nagging question: why, after three and a half happy years together, do I still cringe at the thought of getting married?

Height: The Last Lesbian Prejudice?

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 03.31.2012 | Gay Voices
Sasha Lotrian

Once upon a time, I tried not to date anyone shorter then me, not because I think any less of shorter women, but as a femme, I had it stuck in my head that my partner should and would be taller and bigger than me.

Teaching Taxi Drivers About Lesbian Sex

Jincey Lumpkin | Posted 01.09.2012 | Gay Voices
Jincey Lumpkin

"Which one is the man, and which one is the woman?" That is a question I have faced more times that I can count. Taxicab drivers generally pose the question while they are hauling me around Manhattan. The exchange goes something like this.

How My Lesbian Boss Makes Me a Better Father

John Koch | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
John Koch

At Prop 8's absolute worst, manufacturing a defined "difference" between straight and gay relationships will manifest itself in a manufactured difference between straight and gay parents.