This may sound extremely contradictory, but when you find yourself crazed, anxious, stressed, and just a tad (okay, maybe insanely) overwhelmed, one of the best things you can do for yourself is slow down.
Eventually, a shame-based mind represses its mistakes to avoid feeling bad, preventing the possibility of learning from a mistake, which only increases the likelihood of repeating the blunder. Thus, mistakes can't teach us anything. We become afraid to take risks, which limits our growth.
When I was growing up, I always felt unmoored and uncentered, like I didn't know who I was and like I was waiting for someone else to tell me. I was finally getting a sense, now as an adult, that my opinion of myself mattered.
We are all a person in a situation. As much as we want others to understand our situation, we should try to understand theirs. Maybe even the slow driver of the minivan who got his food before me had a very good reason for driving slowly. Probably not -- but maybe.
If you believe the idea of life being joy-centered is a falsehood, you have bought the snake oil of disillusionment, and you are probably still taking a tablespoonful of its bitterness every morning. My recommendation is to skip a day, open up to the possibility of joy, and see how you feel.
In an unexpected way though, existentialism set me free. It reminded me that my purpose on earth was undefined and more importantly, that I could choose how to live. It reassured me that since I originated from nothing and ultimately would return to nothing, I had nothing to lose.
What makes watching things stressful -- like taking in a performance, rooting for a friend, or even seeing a scary movie -- is also what makes them. It's all in how it's framed.
I recently went searching for God in Stamford at the the Arts and Crafts Fair. I posed two questions: Which season is most Divine and why and what are your hopes for the new season.
Since we're each a living part in a living Whole, one challenging art in being human is to live out our particular life while comprehending the Whole....
It is 3 am in the morning on Fifth Avenue. Many of the lucky ones are squeezing their fluffy pillows covered in Egyptian cotton, riding the dream wave...
I believe people when they tell me their lives are unmanageably busy. But I also have seen that what people believe about leisure and relaxation has a far greater impact on their well-being than a packed calendar alone.
This two-minute gratitude stress buster will help release stress and restore calm -- give it a go! Test it out when you are feeling a little unbalanced or stressed.
Are your days filled with stress, dread and have-tos? Do you find yourself dreading your week, and it is only just beginning? It is very easy to f...
Beach week in September is when I unplug from work demands. The work email and phone are turned off, and I let myself stop for a week. No logistics, no juggling of multiple priorities, no racing out the door. I put my umbrella in the sand, grab a pile of books and sit by the ocean.
In order to make others love you, you've got to love yourself. In order to make others appreciate you, you've got to appreciate yourself. Every change starts from within, why not start with adding some love for yourself. Love begets love.
Even happy occasions and positive changes are stressful, and it helps to recognize how to manage them for our health and happiness. Here are six things you can do to lower the stress and maximize the positives of the transition...
In the face of this gritty, mysterious, and ever-changing dynamic we call being alive, it's nothing short of heroic that we are asked to choose life a...