Sure, they seem like clean beings at home. They shower daily, wash their faces and brush their teeth... but until their camp counselors actually physically force them into the shower, they will not shower. Just assume a few good swims in the lake will suffice.
Choose to live life being excited about your day. Choose to wake up with enthusiasm about what lies ahead. It isn't just about making the best of what you have, it is about changing what isn't working.
Sure, intuitively you realize that the time will come someday when you are compelled to release all that you have held fast to for so many years. Practically, you cannot prepare yourself for how it all goes down.
I do not want to see her bleed, or to watch my father cry over her. I do not want to acknowledge that the same raw strength I see in him is the same raw strength that has been called forth generation after generation, in the letting-go moments.
In my medical practice, I've seen these creative approaches to relationships save marriages and make ongoing intimacies safe for emotional empaths of all ages -- even if they haven't had a long-term partner before.
After he came home junior year to go to community college for a semester -- and, making the best choice he's ever made, decided to go back to the university he had left -- my husband and I finally did something smart. We left him alone.