Before joining the Marines, my femaleness had never been presented to me so vividly-- nor had I ever felt so "female" in my life. Tradition reminds us, "Boys will be boys." What if I refuse to accept that maxim, ideology and license for aggression?
While the situation in Fort Bragg is still developing, this whole situation could have been avoided if the DoD had made the aforementioned changes soon after the repeal of DADT and issued same-sex spouses military identification cards as "family members."
If my own service as an Army officer taught me anything, it's this: you don't win the next battle by talking about the last one. You win it by digging deeper, pushing harder and sacrificing more, or else you don't win it at all.
If we are going to continue to carry the banner of the "land of the free," there must continue to be change in the "home of the brave." This is because the very brave we speak of are being denied liberty and equal protection under the law.
Repeal of DADT was a monumental achievement, but it did not level the playing field for gay and lesbian service members, veterans, and their families. It's time to end these discriminatory laws, finish the job, and honor all military families.