I want to caution that for all the drama, excitement, enthusiasm and analysis sparked by the political dimension of the marriage equality debate, there is also a deeply personal dimension that is easy to overlook. It is the collateral damage of systemic homophobia that accelerates when marriage equality is in the news cycle.
From one sentence I realized, it's not for me to understand something I can't naturally relate to, but I must be compassionate. No one owes anyone a detailed breakdown of their personal and private experiences (especially when it can be so hard to put into words). The message is: I don't feel like my true self.
At every LGBTQ training I give, people are the most interested in one thing: trans people. So what is transgender? It's a persistent feeling that your gender does not match the sex you were assigned at birth. Evidence leads us to believe we are about .5 percent of the population, or one in every 200 people.
There is a pervasive cultural myth that all gays are rich, and that all Asian Americans are overachievers. Individuals who identify as LGBTQ and AAPI are therefore often assumed to be better off. However, these misconceptions all too often mask real struggles and hardships faced by LGBTQ AAPI communities.
Confession time. Yes, LGBT people are absolutely making a choice. They are choosing to be the most honest, authentic versions of themselves. The only relevant choice for straight Christians is whether we are willing to examine both our personal opinions and our theology accordingly. The choice is ours.