In late August of 2012, my wife and I announced that we'd be having our first child in March. We'd known for several weeks and it felt fantastic to finally share the good news with everyone. We had been window-shopping for homes online in preparation for the new addition, and that Saturday we casually attended an open house nearby.
I've been fortunate to have had some incredible mentors in my life, and with them the ability to sit in on and be surrounded by people that far exceed my current skill level. I seek these situations out because I know that the most effective way to grow is to play with and against people that are more skilled than you.
Asking myself, "What do you want to create?" before going to an important meeting, event, or date. This habit is really life changing and puts you in the director's chair in life. It allows you to stop and think about the purpose of participating in that event, with those particular people, and creates an urgency to think about the reason for it.
The Enneagram, like all spiritual and psychological systems, has the potential to help us transform, grow, and improve our relationships with others. For example, if our boss is a six we may act more systematically, but if we see they're an eight -- we might be incentivized to find freedom within their dynamic structure.