A few years ago when I turned 50 and my world was topsy-turvy . . . I decided to get a grip. Not only had I packed on 15 post-menopausal pounds (too much of it settled around my middle), my energy lagged, and I felt gloomy and glum a lot of the time. Even worse, I started to think that midlife wasn't going to be so great after all. For the first time in my life, I had a bad attitude.
If you're going on a first date -- especially one where kind friends made the introduction, or, thanks to the Internet, you've met only virtually -- you will no doubt want to put your absolute prettiest foot forward and plan a fun and flirty outfit that makes you look and feel fabulous. But, doesn't your long-term love deserve just as much effort from you?