When we're willing to look underneath the surface, we can discover the truth of who we are and the real healing can begin. It might not be easy but if I could do it, anyone can. All you need is the willingness, the desire to change your life.
When I try to push fear away or drown it by eating too much, drinking or avoiding, it comes back even stronger. Instead, when I recognize the fear and face it, just like I did on that dark cliff in Hong Kong, then I can disable it.
If you really want to love your body, then you've got to first love your life. That means loving yourself enough to pursue that dream you've been keeping on the shelf. Stop being obsessed with your body. Start being obsessed with your life.
If I didn't go through the lows, I wouldn't have ever taken the time to unlearn the mistruths spoken over me. I wouldn't have quit my job and founded my own business. I wouldn't be in a healthy relationship with someone whole who loves the whole version of me equally back.
It is so important that we claim our vision. Give yourself permission to really engage in the fantasy. What exactly are you looking to accomplish or change in your life? Allow your mind's eye to flow with the vision -- get specific in your daydream.
Most of the things you aren't supposed to say are the things that made me feel better. After reading that, I thought for a moment, Maybe things don't happen for a reason... then what the heck is going on?
Abraham Maslow the famous motivational psychologist once said that, "Until you take care of your lower needs, you will never be able to fulfill your higher needs." The reason most people never fulfill their dreams or goals is because their basic human needs are never met.
You might not have as much people time as I do, but I bet everything that is important to you, everything you want before you die, has something to do with people. Your whole ability to accomplish your dreams is connected to your ability to communicate and partner with these people.
There is pleasure and pain involved with every diagnosis doled out, on multiple levels. But, ultimately, it's up to us to recognize that the root of all of these labels basically comes down to how effectively we can process our feelings, thoughts and behaviors.
It doesn't mean you have to like the person. It doesn't mean you have to make them change. Your criticisms might be 100 percent correct, but you do owe it to yourself and them to see the truth. And that will always make you free -- ending the war of inner thoughts and resentment.
When students come to see me, they're interested in telling me what they would like to get from me, what they would like me to teach them or what they didn't like from other teachers they've have worked with before.
My commitment to "me time" dates for the last 16 years has taught me to trust the choices I've made in my life and to be clear about what is most important. Spending that time was about doing something to enrich my life vs. just maintaining it.