Try not to set yourself up -- pick good people to share your vulnerabilities and your heart with. Slowly you will gain momentum and find that as you trust yourself more you will trust others more and then one day you'll find you are speaking to or acting with the bus driver or a stranger with the same heart and vulnerable realness as you would your bestie.
I am losing weight so I can hike with my kids by Mother's Day. I am having back to back Tinder dates because I am finding My Person this year. I am studying Math 101 so I can feel smart. I am reading this book so I do not get kicked out of bookclub. I am dancing so I can feel the Angels when I move.