By regularly adopting some of these practices that resonate with you (or all of them, if you're an overachiever), you will find yourself becoming more in tune with your true self. You might just learn to more easily go with the flow, let go of the past, and quit worrying about the future.
I stand to the side and watch her, at once proud and sad. She is growing up. Learning that letting go can be scary and exciting, but most of all, necessary. And I realize as I watch her rush back to the ladder, it's a lesson I am learning too.
I wrote more, much more, after I had children than I did before, even though I had far less time. When I was young and single, I squandered my hours. There was always a concert to go to, or a movie, or maybe I just felt like lying around and watching television.
Right up until last week, I really convinced myself that once son number two had finished school, I was pretty much done as a parent. In 2022 I'd go back to my life as a 32-year-old, circa 2002.
To parent our children to live exceptional lives and become exceptional people, we must teach them to have the fortitude to stand tall no matter what is happening.
While some may think getting someone to "do their business" in a toilet is simple, parents know it is anything but (no pun intended).
As with untied shoe laces, with chores I'm learning to take the long-view -- a little short-term pain for long-term gain. I'm also finding that these chores are not just teaching my kids some important life lessons, they're also teaching me, as a parent, how to be a little more disciplined and accountable myself.
Time has allowed me to experiment. Time allows me to try on different roles, learn from people and experiences and dust myself off and try again.
All mothering attempts seem to be a reaction: you either emulate your own experience, or you rebel against it.
What would have to be true for your child to behave this way? Another way of thinking about this is to ask, Why does this upsetting behavior make its own kind of sense?
Being a parent means you outfit yourself with the right kid paraphernalia so you're prepared for anything. How well our diaper bag has been packed can determine the success or failure of any outing.
I am the "father" to my nearly-12-year-old bone marrow "daughter." Twelve years ago, I received a bone marrow transplant to treat myelodysplastic synd...
My 8 year old son has been out sick the last two days. Today, he seemed fine. I told him that he'd be going back to school tomorrow, and instantly his symptoms reappeared. "I'm hot. My forehead is warm. My hands are cold," and then the fake cough started up.
Building up this self-confidence is critical to restoring balance at home. It's the first step in reducing the terrible stress of being at odds with your children and everything that comes with it.
Grandparents have the sweetest gig. They just get to spoil their grandchildren, right? Well, grandparents in the 21st century also have a completely different perspective on grandchildren than those of previous generations. Many think that kids are losing their ability to communicate with and respect their elders.
I love my twins. Of course I do. It's just that they were unexpected. If I could have read a primer two years ago, this is what it might have said.