You know that skittish, trapped feeling you get when your children are uncooperative and you're running late? That's certainly worthy of our attention. Recognizing our emotional state requires that we tune in and notice.
When I get home today, I will wrap my arms around your rosy-cheeked face, sweet-smelling hair and strong body, squeezing you tight until you giggle into my ear.
"The talking animals are sad today," said the spirited princess who looked as if she had a naughty secret. "Because their bangs are too long. So they can't come to the party. And that's why all the birthday cakes are about to be destroyed!"
I did a lot of things right with my kids. I know that. But there were many things I could've done better. So, here's my self-assessed parenting report card in the hopes you'll end up with better grades.
Girls pick up on our every sigh when we try on jeans that are snug, every groan when we don't like how our dress fits. And they hate hearing our disparaging remarks. It makes them feel sad because they love us. Our comments also normalizing the act of trash-talking our bodies.
I've realized that although structure and discipline are paramount in child rearing, the switch-ups, surprises and spontaneous surrenders are where the magic happens.
By dealing with kids' nightmares in the right way, you can not only reduce the occurrence of bad dreams and have a family that gets a better night's sleep, you can also use these moments to develop a closer relationship with your child.
Help your young person understand that this gift of a smartphone is qualitatively different than presents of the past. A smartphone is not a toy; it is a tool.
Think about it. Imagine if your spouse put an old picture of you up and said, "I miss this skinny, blonde person." That is how teens see this "I miss my baby" nonsense.
I doubt parents a hundred years ago had access to 100,000 names at their fingertips. You named kids after your parents, royals or religious heroes. But the sheer amount of currently available information makes any choice almost paralyzing.
When you think of qualities you would like to see in your children you may think of empathy, kindness, gentleness, or politeness. But there are some attributes that are often underappreciated or even discouraged.
Children need a balance of activities, including lots of physical play and movement, non-screen-based learning and reading; and healthy routines for eating, sleeping and hygiene, along with age-appropriate, education-focused screen time with adult oversight and monitoring.
They like to grab stuff that doesn't belong to them and run. My dog likes to steal my kids' toys and take off. My toddler likes to pick up the dog's toys and run away as quickly as possible.
What if we replace guilt with faith? Faith that we can exist in a world where we work hard, take care of our kids but also take care of ourselves and trust that they will be ok.
I want to share a few parenting tips that have saved my husband and I from added stress, anger, jealousy and feelings of failure as new parents.
Follow your fear. There's glory on the other side of the tunnel. You won't be able to see the light on the other side...maybe even for awhile. You won't ever be ready. You won't ever be totally confident. You won't ever grow the courage. You grow the courage by doing it even though you aren't ready.