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Losing a Spouse

Why This New Widow Is Skipping Grief Counseling

The Huffington Post | Ann Brenoff | Posted 02.10.2017 | Healthy Living

My life partner of decades died on Jan. 4, 2017, just a few weeks before my 67th birthday. But I believe I was widowed long before that day, as each n...

The Perfect Movies For Anyone Who Needs Cheering Up

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 07.23.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

A few weeks ago, I was vacationing with my son Nick, daughter-in-law Carolyn, the grandkids, Lucas aged 13 and Georgia aged 9, and their adorable dog Simon, in Santa Barbara. I thoroughly relished my time being with my sweet family but, it had been a particularly tough day for me emotionally.

A Mother's Tale: Dealing With The Fatherless Child On Father's Day

Lisa Gastaldo | Posted 06.13.2016 | Healthy Living
Lisa Gastaldo

Once again, it was thrust upon us. My sons and I were watching television and soon realized "IT" was going to be part of the storyline. Our lighthear...

The Songs I Can No Longer Hear After The Death Of My Spouse

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 06.02.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Maybe listening to the music of my choosing will take me to a new place of healing? Those who have had a significant loss keep a grief playlist in their head. Each is personal and can be ignited by a memory of a song they heard with their loved one.

The Stress That Comes With Losing A Spouse

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 04.25.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Life-changing events like deciding to marry, becoming a parent, and finding a career are all by choice. Becoming a widow is not by choice. It is thrust upon you. The word widow brings to mind an old crone, dressed in a long black shapeless dress, shrouded in a black veil, wearing sensible shoes.

The Vultures That Swarmed After The Death Of My Husband

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 04.16.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Just after my husband Peter died, my accountant warned me about being scammed. I thought I was pretty smart about this and assured him, and the estate attorney, I would not be conned into signing anything without checking with an advisor. But then, things began to happen.

Coping With The Misty-Colored Memories Of The Way We Were

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 04.09.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Right after Peter died I suddenly realized that I had to change my ICE (In case of emergency) contact. I entered in all the information for my son. I love my son dearly but the wave of emotion that overcame me when I had to delete Peter's contact information was devastating.

The Search For A ‘Perfect’ Organ Cost My Wife Her Life

Brian L. Clark | Posted 04.06.2016 | Healthy Living
Brian L. Clark

Waiting for someone else to die so your spouse can live is an awful position. But that's exactly what we were doing, hoping to take advantage of someone else's misfortune. Looking back, it's clear the transplant system in this country is an abject disaster.

The Joke's Over, You Can Come Out Now

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 03.22.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

At least once a day I look for Peter. I look when I put my key in the lock and open the front door. I look when I have gotten into bed and wait for him to slip under the covers beside me. I look when I go downstairs to his office. His presence is in the house.

Unmerry Widow: I'm Not Depressed, I'm Sad

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 03.03.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

After Peter died I read book after book about grief. It appears that there is blueprint, rigidly entrenched in our society, prescribing the stages of grief. Society has labeled a gold standard for behavior after a loss.

Finding My Self-Identity Again After The Death Of My Husband

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 02.22.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

When I was a teenager I would look forward to the coming school year with new books, pencils, erasers, and the whole schmear. I would go to class, write in my new books, but when I had one mistake, it was over. I was the best little girl in the world and had to be perfect. I couldn't just toss it off. I had to start again.

Learning To Cook For One After The Death Of My Husband

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 02.15.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

In the six months since my husband Peter died, I have been eating out much of the time. But now things are quieting down and I seem to have more time at home in the evenings and my dinners are downright pathetic.

Finding A Modicum Of Normalcy 5 Months After Losing My Spouse

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 01.24.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

It is over five months since my sweet husband Peter died and I am beginning to find a modicum of normalcy. My dinner dates have slowed down but my lunch plans are still going. Yes, I am 'demoted to lunch' a bit, although I don't blame my friends, it is more on my part.

Why This Widow Has Deemed This The 'Year Of No'

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 01.14.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Shonda Rimes has a wonderful new book called 'A Year of Yes', where she talks about being fearless enough to answer yes to new adventures. The loss of my sweet husband Peter has forced me to create my own opposite book -- 'A Year of No.'

How This Widow Addressed The Practical Part Of Crying All The Time

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 12.18.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

I admit to openly crying at movies and have even been known to cry at a commercial that includes a puppy. But I had no idea that I had so many tears in my body. I have cried so much since my sweet Peter died that I altered my vision and even improved my astigmatism!

Connecting With Other Widows In Order To Cope With My Grief

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 12.06.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Since losing my husband earlier this year, I have become closer online with other widows. Old friends from my New York days and several friends in Los Angeles have been an unexpected comfort. They have known the pain, and by their example, I see a glimmer of light.

Tomorrow is Not Guaranteed -- One Woman's Quest to Find Life After Loss

Leigh M. Clark | Posted 09.03.2016 | Women
Leigh M. Clark

Mike and Katie met through a mutual friend, who had introduced them over dinner. He was one of Mike's best friends and also served in the military with him. They felt an immediate connection and Katie said 'immediately when I met him, I fell for him.'

Accidents, Airports, an Angel

Melissa Gould | Posted 08.12.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Melissa Gould

I believe without question that Joel, my husband who died of West Nile Virus less than two years ago, is the one who told the girls to buckle up.

The Remarkable Way One Young Widow Is Redefining Grief

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 08.03.2016 | Fifty
Abby Rodman, LICSW

Melissa doesn't believe that God or The Universe owed her something as precious and precarious as her husband's health. She accepts that life, often, is a crapshoot. And sometimes you get lucky, and sometimes you simply don't. And sometimes you get a mix -- and that's what Melissa got and she's grateful for it.

The Truth About Sex And The Grieving Widower

Sienna Jae Fein | Posted 05.29.2016 | Fifty
Sienna Jae Fein

Women who date widowers are sometimes stunned when an actively grieving man presses eagerly for sex. Our culture mandates no 'correct' grieving process, and grieving is unique to every individual, but most experts agree that men and women mourn in different ways.

Widower Has Eaten Breakfast Beside Late Wife's Photo Every Day Since She Died

The Huffington Post | Kelsey Borresen | Posted 11.20.2014 | Weddings

One Louisiana man has found a beautiful, but heartbreaking way to keep his late wife's memory alive. Every morning since she died last year, 88-ye...

How Fitness Helped Me Grieve and Start My Life Over Again

Michelle E. Steinke | Posted 08.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Michelle E. Steinke

The exercise literally saved my life when I felt like I had none left. The exercise became a necessity and a driving force beyond loss. I also started the project of living my late husbands bucket list, as a way to honor my past will living a full, fit, and exciting future.

I Do Not Need Fixing. I'm Just Grieving the Death of My Husband.

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 04.03.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I painted her a picture of my current situation. An abridged version of my husband's two-year battle with cancer and his death four months ago.

Losing a Partner: How to Recover from the Loss of a Loved One

Margaret Manning | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Margaret Manning

Accept the love and support of family and friends at this time, but understand that they may not know what to say or do.

Why It's Important To Socialize Even After A Major Loss

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Six of Bereavement Boot Camp. Have you noticed any changes in your Healing Journey at this point? I hope so, because I am now about to push you out of your house. Did I just give you a big headache?