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Notes From a New Widow

Jan Phillips | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Jan Phillips

Annie O'Flaherty's body is gone, but her tone is still resonating. I am changing every day as this glacier of grief moves through the landscape of me.

5 Lessons I Learned From Surviving Cancer And Divorce

Dr. Andra Brosh | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Dr. Andra Brosh

I never had the intention or goal of being a "survivor." I only wanted to siphon what I could out of the devastation and disillusionment I was experiencing.

Do We Ever Stop Grieving?

James Van Praagh | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
James Van Praagh

I believe that we souls learn something significant from all of our experiences, no matter how grand or small. Each experience changes us. When someone in your life transitions to a spiritual form, they never go without leaving gifts behind.

How to Be Intimate Again After Loss

Christina Rasmussen | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Christina Rasmussen

I didn't know I could fall in love again after my husband died of stage 4 colon cancer. After all, my heart froze on that day. My body was alive, bu...

Walk It Out: Wild and My Pilgrim's Heart

Joan Gelfand | Posted 01.23.2014 | Books
Joan Gelfand

Strayed's and Dale's memoirs define a different category. Call it 'Conscious Walking,' or 'How I Walked Myself To A Better Life,' journeys of over 1,000 miles that bravely explore the raw, rocky and often hazardous terrain of inner lives in crisis and turmoil.

Wheelchair Wisdom: Learning to Let Go

Linda Noble Topf | Posted 12.24.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Noble Topf

The long list of feelings we experience around loss comes from holding on to our perceptions about the way things "ought to be." When we are able to let go of these perceptions, it is as if we open a door to a brand-new world of possibility.

Ghosts, Goblins and Grief

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Fredda Wasserman

Holidays are a mixed bag. A griever can't help but have mixed reactions to certain accessories that characterize Halloween and Dia de Los Muertos. If you know someone who is grieving, be sensitive to their perceptions and reactions.

Choosing Life Amidst Death

Denise Tam | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Denise Tam

You beat it. Cancer never took you away. It may have brought you to Queen Mary Hospital where I first met you but you chose to not only remain joyful but to also bring joy to those around you.

How We Die Is Not Our Whole Story

Lynn Shattuck | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lynn Shattuck

My parents and I heard phrases like, "What a waste." At grief groups, I was embarrassed to say how he died. As if him dying from drugs and alcohol meant I had less of a right to be there than if his life had been claimed by a car accident or a heart defect.

Finding Peace Through Letting Go

Fiona Childs | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Fiona Childs

Little by little I learned to let go of many thoughts that are not useful while still holding onto beautiful memories that bring me joy. This has taken time and much practice, but in doing so, I have discovered great peace in my own life.

The Forgotten War: Love Letter to a Soldier in Afghanistan

C. Cryn Johannsen | Posted 10.17.2013 | World
C. Cryn Johannsen

It isn't until I stand for a brief moment, at the glass doors, far away from where you and all the other deploying soldiers wait to enter the gate, when I finally turn to look for you one last time.

My 6-Year-Old Teacher

Vanessa Contopulos | Posted 01.23.2014 | Impact
Vanessa Contopulos

From the beginning of our time together, Isabel moved my heart deeply. Without spoken language, she communicated through her eyes, the slight lifting of the corner of her mouth to form a little smile, and with movements of her tiny fingers.

Magedy

Lynn Shattuck | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Lynn Shattuck

There is a word I came up with years ago, when I was still fresh from my brother's death, which cracked me open enough that I had to put myself back together in a different way. A way that left me paying closer attention to the moments, to the people in my world.

The Blessings of Everyday Life

Robin Amos Kahn | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Robin Amos Kahn

As I read and write and meditate, I find that my mood shifts. Not just in small increments, but dramatically.

Think All The Good Men & Women Are Already Taken? Read This

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 12.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

But whether you live in Manhattan or in North Dakota, whether you're 19 or 90, whether you're a conservative or a liberal, whether you like country music or classical, there are people with whom it is possible to create true, lasting and loving partnerships.

An Improbable Nanny

Dana Clark | Posted 11.30.2013 | Comedy
Dana Clark

Being a professional nanny is a kind of ridiculous satire for a girl raised by a single dad.

Near Dweller: How I Wound Up in the Arms of My Neighbor

Danielle Ariano | Posted 11.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Danielle Ariano

"She's gone, Dani," he said just before bursting into loud sobs. His hand rose to cover his face. We had never shared any kind of physical contact, but I didn't hesitate to reach out and touch his shoulder; it seemed the most humane of all my available options.

The Word You Need To Hear When Dealing With A Loss

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.23.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Why is 'initiative' such a huge word? Because initiative means taking action. Initiative takes intent. Initiative takes formulation. Initiative takes follow-up and follow-through. Initiative comes from within yourself.

Embracing the Dark and the Light: Lessons of the Equinox

Lynn Shattuck | Posted 11.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Lynn Shattuck

I started to breathe again. I started getting dressed before noon. I went to grief groups and I spoke. I stopped hiding, for maybe the first time ever. I started writing down the memories of my brother that flitted through my mind, unburied by his absence.

Why I Didn't Wish You a Happy Birthday

Eric W. | Posted 11.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Eric W.

Being a widower has changed my life in many ways. You can probably imagine some of the more cataclysmic changes, but there are also smaller, everyday disruptions that may not be as obvious. As an example, I'd like to explain why I didn't wish you a happy birthday this year.

Rising From the Ashes

Robin Amos Kahn | Posted 05.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Robin Amos Kahn

I learned compassion. I learned that you cannot do life alone. I learned that pain is part of life and it cracks you open in ways that make you a more compassionate person. I learned that the obstacles on the path ARE the path.

Why It's Important To Socialize Even After A Major Loss

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Six of Bereavement Boot Camp. Have you noticed any changes in your Healing Journey at this point? I hope so, because I am now about to push you out of your house. Did I just give you a big headache?

12 Years Ago Today

Kim Bongiorno | Posted 11.11.2013 | Parents
Kim Bongiorno

They were everywhere, because the people were nowhere. The city, as any creature would, eventually healed. The pulse thrummed again. The streets rushed again. But the fluttering, The Missing, they stay with me.

Image From Past Stirs Lifetime of Memories

Jan Angilella | Posted 11.09.2013 | Women
Jan Angilella

She's solid and strong in the photo. It will be years before Lupus ravages her health and attacks her kidneys. Did she even imagine that I'd give her a kidney one day?

How To Stop Living A Life Based On Other People's Opinions

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.09.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Five of Bereavement Boot Camp. You have probably noticed that as time goes on, the subject matter and the challenges get a little tougher -- but then again, so have you.