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Married With A Boyfriend

Melissa Gould | Posted 05.04.2015 | Women
Melissa Gould

She notices Antonio, asks me, "Oh, is that your husband?" An innocent enough question. I say, "No, he's my boyfriend." The word so clumsy in my mouth. How can I have a boyfriend when I still feel like someone's wife?

Shoes and Life

John Roman, Ph.D. | Posted 04.27.2015 | GPS for the Soul
John Roman, Ph.D.

I never cared much for shoes. They are utilitarian and prosaic. I was always a construction boots and running shoes kind of person.

How I Can Lighten Up In The Wake Of Overwhelming Loss

Melissa Gould | Posted 04.27.2015 | Parents
Melissa Gould

How can I "celebrate" with my in-laws who are both having a second birthday without their beloved son? How can I lighten up when I worry so much about my daughter? How can I lighten up when I'm grieving my love of 20-something years?

The Curious Disappearance of the Online Commitment Phobe

Emily Wilcox | Posted 04.25.2015 | Women
Emily Wilcox

While you lay awake perusing his old text messages and reminiscing about his quick pursuit, the online commitment phobe was already mentally packing his bags just as he approached your dating profile page.

How I Found My Heart (Again) After Hearing 'It's Over'

Ms. Canyon Girl | Posted 04.25.2015 | Healthy Living
Ms. Canyon Girl

The Canyon represents a microcosm that exists for all of us, regardless of where we live. You will know it when you find it. It is the place where you can navigate the stages of grief. It will come to be the place where you can savor the beautiful moments and distractions of this thing called life. It is the place where you, too, can find your heart again.

The 'Mother Figure' I Didn't Know I Needed

Rachel Levy Lesser | Posted 04.25.2015 | Women
Rachel Levy Lesser

No one would ever fill that void left by her death, I told myself, and it's true that no one really has. But my father has certainly made that void feel a little less empty.

Losing One's 'Dopamine Fix'

Dr. Natasha Josefowitz | Posted 04.17.2015 | Healthy Living
Dr. Natasha Josefowitz

After my husband died, I had a very hard time adjusting to singlehood. Although living in a retirement community helped me survive those awful first m...

Allowing Loss of a Family Member to Unite Family

Honey Good | Posted 04.15.2015 | Fifty
Honey Good

I remember the first time l laid eyes on my daughter-in-law, Jami. It was 25 years ago. It is usually the daughter-in-law who is the newcomer. In this case it was the new girlfriend of her father-in-law. I had moved from Honolulu to Chicago. They had already given me a name -- "the Hawaiian Princess!"

4 Powerful Lessons About Life I Learned As A Hospice Worker

Dawn Q Landau | Posted 04.12.2015 | Fifty
Dawn Q Landau

As a Hospice volunteer, I spend every Tuesday with people who are dying. I cook their meals; hold their hands; read to them; I sing and I sit quietly. I tell them stories and I listen to theirs. I wipe their foreheads, when fever or illness makes them sweat.

Lessons Learned in Loss: How to Prepare for the Unpreparable

Daniela Tempesta, LCSW | Posted 04.08.2015 | Healthy Living
Daniela Tempesta, LCSW

Loss makes you ache in places you didn't even know existed. Familiar landscapes become unrecognizable. No matter how hard you try, there is no way to fully prepare for the emotional wreckage it leaves behind. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try, just a little.

A Eulogy To My Other Half: My Dog

Kamrin Baker | Posted 04.08.2015 | Teen
Kamrin Baker

It's hard to come home knowing a wagging tail won't greet you at the door, but you also have a sense that there's a bit of a wagging tail within yourself, in his memory at the same time.

The Secret Life of a Teenage Caregiver

Michelle Hanson | Posted 04.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Michelle Hanson

I hated the anger I felt towards him, hated the way I treated him in his moments of weakness. I hated the doctors that gave him the opiates that eventually took over his life, and I hated the disease that robbed me of the father that had taught me to play baseball and make the best ice cream sundaes in the world.

Just Love Anyway

Nicole Jankowski | Posted 04.07.2015 | Divorce
Nicole Jankowski

This morning, I woke up in bed, alone, my legs twisted up in the slate gray comforter. The windows were wide open, shades down, and the bedroom was cool and dark. I remembered at once, tomorrow is the day. Tomorrow I will be divorced, officially.

Passages

Tricia McCallum | Posted 04.05.2015 | Books
Tricia McCallum

This story is included in Tricia McCallum's first book of poetry: Nothing Gold Can Stay: A Mother and Father Remembered .

Making Room for the Light

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 04.04.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

It's sad IVF didn't work for us. It's sad we lost our three babies. It's sad we lost those three dreams. Giving myself permission to continue to feel that sadness, as needed, will help to stave off that anger that seems to set me back so much every time.

Surviving Mars and Surviving Loss Are Not So Different

Tracey Cleantis | Posted 04.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Tracey Cleantis

Let me just start off by saying that I am decidedly NOT a science-fiction fan. Klingons and Trekkies and books and films involving planets, wormhole...

A Letter from an Adoptee to Her Sons

Christina Romo | Posted 03.29.2015 | Parents
Christina Romo

I want you both to know that by making that decision to adopt me three decades ago, Grandma and Grandpa truly changed my life. In a matter of a year, I went from being an orphan to becoming someone's daughter.

Rainbow Baby's Pregnancy Is Nerve-Wracking

James Sims | Posted 03.28.2015 | Arts
James Sims

It has been eight months since we set foot in the labor and delivery unit of this hospital . We lost our baby girl in room 13 last May, following a nightmarish few months consumed by trips to the emergency room, bleeding with unknown causes and bouts of contractions.

5 Ways to Learn From Troubling Times

Kathleen Pasley | Posted 03.28.2015 | Healthy Living
Kathleen Pasley

Most of us dread and despise difficult times -- whether it be financial woes, relationships breaking down, marriages ending, losing a job, fighting wi...

On a Couch With a Dog: Lessons, Love, and Loss

Kara Beckman | Posted 03.25.2015 | College
Kara Beckman

When everything else in our lives is consistently shifting, we want to be able to come home to familiar surroundings, and feel as though something is permanent and stable. However, even those things that seem constant are subject to the will of time, and will change.

Yellow Dog

Renee Fisher | Posted 03.24.2015 | Fifty
Renee Fisher

Thank you, Yellow Dog, for accompanying Micah on his journey into adulthood, and for being part of Micah and Janelle's first family. Thank you also for reminding us that life is always connected, that the roots of both life and love run deep, and that the connection to either is never broken.

Flying High: Expanding My Wings With Angels on My Side -- Reflections at 30,000 Feet

Jordyn Goodman | Posted 01.12.2015 | Impact
Jordyn Goodman

"Hold on tight, we are gonna go really fast." I've been on a lot of flights in my life, but no flight attendant ever lead to take off with that. Alt...

Crazy Is Easier

Tara Hedman | Posted 03.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Tara Hedman

That's not to say we aren't responsible for our choices as adults. We are. Responsible for telling the truth and getting the support we need. We are responsible for our feelings and taking action on our own behalf. Responsible for making amends. Responsible for learning to nurture our own hearts when we've never felt nurtured.

The Upside of Loss

Todd Lombardo | Posted 03.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Todd Lombardo

It's a new year, and I made all these resolutions I'm sure to break. But the one thing I want to work harder at is seeing the silver lining, looking at the glass half-full, rather than shattered on the floor.

Lost in Transition

Liza Long | Posted 03.16.2015 | Divorce
Liza Long

One rainy evening in early October 2007, on a winding residential street in Budapest, Hungary, I got lost. I pulled out my notebook, squinting at the greying street signs as I tried to decipher something about my location.