What is an appropriate present for your 20th wedding anniversary? Over 19 years John and I had enjoyed dinners at our favorite sushi restaurant, weekends in Ojai, bonsai classes, the Cemetery of the Stars Tour. But facing year 20, I was stuck. Creatively challenged.
After 19 Valentine's Days and four kids, I have a whole new idea of what kind of cards he could really have been giving me all these years.
Note: The following story must be read aloud in your most sultry, sexy voice.
It's difficult for me to remember why I married him that day. It was partly a logical decision. As I said, we couldn't remain in the friend zone without one of us getting hurt, but I didn't want to lose him forever, so marriage appeared to be the correct step forward.
You may tell them every day you love them paired with a quick kiss, but do you take the time to feel them? Do you look at them when in a conversation? Do you dedicate distraction-free time to them?
With just three days to go, it hit me: Isn't some part of this holiday supposed to be about, you know, me and my husband? Shouldn't I be thinking about love and romance -- all that stuff being advertised on channels that aren't Nick Jr.?
Heartbreak is so terribly unnatural. Therefore, I imagine, there's no real cure or real trick to pull yourself out of it. I think the only way to get over it is to first simply sulk in it.
Nobody warns you. It just happens. At least that's my story. I was in my late 40s, passionately in love, and suddenly the wondrous release that always made me so giddy just wasn't there anymore.
I never thought I'd be typing this sentence. It's traumatic, really. Here goes. Imetmyboyfriendonline. Yes, I met my boyfriend online.
Most of us understand good love takes time and effort to be strong and lasting. We know that commitment, communication, patience and humor are all necessary ingredients for creating a solid relationship, yet love can also be fragile.
More than 12 years down the road, it seems the words have essentially become a daily habit, much like brushing my teeth. Have the words, "I love you," become the slogan of our marriage rather than the expression of my appreciation, respect, and regard?
Navigating grown-up relationships isn't too hard, if you can remember the rules Have you noticed how many of us so-called adults have no real knowledge of how to be in a grown-up relationship? I have.
Now, I'm not saying women should leverage their affections to obtain this, their heart's desire. It's just that for many of us (myself included, at the top of the list!), a little effort goes a long way in setting the mood for love.
It's not enough to show token consideration one day every now and again. Great relationships thrive on quality attention every day.
This Valentine's Day, join me in celebrating sex AND the freedom to choose if and when to become pregnant -- on our own terms. And while we're at it, let's make sure that all women have the opportunity to do the same, regardless of where they live.
Don't make Valentine's Day any bigger than it needs to be. Spend time doing something you both love without going above and beyond and stressing out. Invest in gifts that are priceless, from the heart, not the wallet. Instead, relax, have fun and simply enjoy each other.