I was with my late husband for 32 years. After he died, I planned to melt into my sofa in a haze of dark chocolate gelato and Nicholas Sparks movies. I'd be the woman in the bourbon-stained bathrobe buying the giant, economy Bombay Sapphire gin and twelve Butterfingers at Bevmo. But I "got out there." Too much.
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Emily and I have now been married for five months, and there is a difference. It's subtle, but I can feel it. I can feel it in how I view her, and I can feel it in how I view myself. Daily life still plays out as it did before, but it's now grounded in a singular, permanent foundation.
Love makes idiots out of all of us. And unfortunately part of the risk (and the thrill) of love is that you never really know the future. So rather than trying to be smarter at love, I suggest you learn to relax into its uncertainty
I tend now to be attracted to men who have succeeded in areas that I haven't but wanted to, and I find that men who are drawn to me tend to value the areas I'm accomplished in. This is both speaking to our differences as well as our similarities.
When you're in a serious, long-term relationship, the terms "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" can begin to feel a bit juvenile, or at least insufficient for describing your level of commitment.
I think we need to start reexamining what it means to be in a modern relationship that is all encompassing of who we are as an evolved society. We live longer, we get married later, we have infinite ways of connecting.
If I could sum up the era of my life in which I was discovering my sexuality in one word, that word would be: shame. Despite the personal nature of this story, I feel compelled to share it, because I fully believe that no young woman should have to experience such intense shame -- yet the sad truth is, most do.
Sometimes when we are in a relationship -- especially a long-term relationship -- we get comfortable and fall into a routine. Nowhere is this more common than in our sex lives.
Online dating just makes everything so simple. Instead of spotting someone of interest; figuring a way to get to know him or her; doing your best to make a good impression; then working up the courage to ask her out (man) or hoping he will (woman), you merely fill out an online form and boom: it's game on.
Each of us has different goals and dreams that will make us happy, but what we all desire is freedom. We long to live life on our terms and spend our time on the things that are important to us. Here are five signs you're not living a life that makes you happy and gives you freedom.
If you ever fall in love, fall in love with someone who... You can laugh with, but also cry with. You can joke around with, but also be serious with. You can enjoy the present moment with, but also envision a future with. You can enjoy nights out with, but also sit in comfortable silence.
Here are a couple of helpful exercises that you can do together to remove your walls. You should know up front these exercises are going to feel awkward, but well worth the effort.
I don't want you to pine for the love that we'll one day find and let your life pass you by. The last thing I want is for you to waste the time you have until you meet me. Please, continue to live your life boldly and -- for the moment -- forget about me.
Are you mind reading? Think about how this behavior has ever impacted your friendships, your relationships with family, and your work life. How different would our lives be if we stopped assuming, and started asking? I will not assume to know, but it seems worth finding out!
We over-50 singles say we want to be in long-term, committed relationships. We want to find someone to grow old with. We just can't stomach any changes to our own lives.