Logically, the answer is simple: Don't get involved with someone who isn't willing to be seen with you in public. And in a perfect world, I think that's what I would have done before I allowed myself to become the "secret boyfriend." But as anyone who has ever been in love will tell you, sometimes logic goes out the window.
"You don't meet someone when you first meet them," joked Chris Rock. "You meet their representative!" Given that we've all been fooled by "appearances," here's five signs to help us along.
Marriage is not a 24-hour repair shop. Your marital partner is not supposed to meet your every need. Some of those needs you may have to take care of yourself. Through your friendships or other activities.
Well today, our 20 year marriage ended in courtroom 2-D. When we came to this decision months ago, I felt like the world had ended. In truth, I was afraid of what life would look like now without you. But now, standing here, it seems much more survivable.
No matter how you choose to define love, one fact remains clear: Love can be highly addictive. We are talking about passionate love, the beginning rush of emotions; the wave that floods us when we first fall in love.
Outlander presents a fantasy that doesn't seek to appease the pornography-influenced tastes of a straight male audience. To put it in simpler terms, Outlander is a drama crafted for the straight female gaze.
I questioned why I continued to stay. Was it habit? Some sadistic sense of comfort? Did I think we'd change back into the people we once were? I'm not a weak person. I grew up in such a loving home. My parents have a beautiful marriage. What's wrong with me?
Here's my modest proposal: We have, in only a few decades, changed society's acceptance of another addiction: tobacco. Can we make it as socially unacceptable to hit a woman in a elevator as to light a cigarette in one? I think we can. And I think we can do it the same way.
In my mid-twenties I was in constant relationships with little time to myself. Each new partner brought some hope for great love, but inevitably ended up falling into a similar pattern as the last. It wasn't their fault; it was mine.
In order to get a better sense of what may be considered a normal and healthy sex drive these days, I asked four experts (or sexperts) for their opinions about what constitutes a normal sex drive.
It does not appear that the youth of America have surpassed the drunken fumbling in backseats of the previous generation or of their fathers' fathers. And what would healthy intimacy resemble in a world of texting, sexting, swiping, Tweeting, Instagramming, and Facebooking?
While schools may not be sewing bright bold A's onto every sexually active teen's shirt, they are still helping to set up a judgmental environment through promoting "abstinence only" courses.
Just the idea of sex, the opportunity of sex, is enough to quicken the heartbeat, inspire the discipline of exercise and eating right. And once the connection has been established, even with a woman who may not be a perfect match, there is an energy, a confidence, a glow that transforms every cell of our bodies.
It's possible that, underneath it all, though, we stay because our brains are wired wrong. I know I was addicted to the oxytocin produced by having a man in my life -- no matter how awful a man.
If you're single and over 50, finding a new sexual partner can be daunting. Here are 10 ways to have more sex, from taking an erotic class to going on a singles' holiday.
All I'm saying is maybe the blanket of "forgive for yourself" isn't the blanket that keeps us all warm. Maybe some of us find warmth from saving forgiveness for people we love, who made mistakes but who deserve our concern and empathy despite their misdoings.