"The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved." -- Victor Hugo 1. Thus I've learned that happiness is not defined by what...
Until the cows come home. Mind reading 101. It is a complete and total waste of time. Dealing with someone who doesn't speak of truth or whose acti...
Dreams, relationships, and life how we picture it don't happen from coming up with canned reactions or strategies. Things don't change based on the same old thinking and actions we take, because those are entrenched, normally based in fear.
There was a grave realization I came to when I spoke with my mother over the phone a few days ago. Without coming out and saying exactly what I wanted...
Being awesome doesn't just happen. It takes a lot of work. You have to own who you are and not be afraid to show it off. You have to figure out what drives you. You've got to be at peace with your insecurities and work to overcome them.
Whether it's happened to you in a friendship, marriage or even in a relationship with someone else who's important in your life (like your hair colorist or even your housekeeper), you simply know when you've lost your rhythm and neither of you is addressing its loss.
We fall into patterns of decision making. Emotional decisions lead to more emotional decisions and logical decisions lead to more logical decisions... We have to work to make the intuitive decision. That is until intuitive decision making becomes a habit.
For years, I've been adamant about the advantages of an open relationship. I've seen monogamy as a viable choice -- but for others. And, without resistance, for the first time in decades, I find myself giving myself fully to just one man.
I'm a professional development coach, and I know that people can't be forced to change. They can be encouraged and helped to feel safe and confident enough to make changes that they feel ready for, but thanks to this crazy thing called "free will," people cannot be forced to do what you want!
For a lot of people -- obviously, myself included -- it's important to know whether a long-term relationship is in the marriage pipeline or on the sideline. And both are ok! But what's most important is that no matter the answer to that question, you're where you want to be and it's where your partner wants to be as well.
If you have ever developed one for a vision, a dream, a purpose, a cause where the struggle to see it through seems challenging and overwhelming but you do not know how to stop fighting, you have not lost your mind, your passion is intentional and deliberate, it is what keeps the engine running.
I've ended up with three little boys; I know they're still young, and I have my work cut out for me, but I know I'm up to the task. I know now that my destiny was never to "fix" men; it was to raise them. And I know my daughters-in-law will someday thank me for raising Mama's Boys.
Relationships provide the potential for growth. When there is an ease, an acceptance and support, it can actually help us to be kinder with ourselves and accomplish the dreams we seek.
Most of us are raised on fairytales and Hollywood (mostly the same thing). For years we believe that our perfect someone is out there, our singular soul mate -- and we wait for him (or her).
Men will listen. Just ask kindly. We must speak from our heart. Ask open-ended questions, which require a real answer, that we must promise not to take personally. No one needs to purposely destroy the other; there is no right or wrong, just two different people.
Are your efforts and commitments for the short term or the long of it? One engenders trust and self-honor, the other, advertises that not you or anyon...