Let go of what's not working. Be brave enough to move on. Make bold choices. It's okay if they're last minute, split second, or otherwise -- as long as you're following your inner-voice. Be audacious enough to ask the driver to stop the bus so you can jump off and see what adventures are waiting for you.
Unless you're endowed with the gift of gab, you and your date might end up in a staring contest while the two of you listen to the crickets in the background. OK, it might not be that bad for you. But trust me, it's not always easy to be clever when you're nervous.
As my wife and I approach our first anniversary, I've taken some time to think about all the lessons I've learned over the past year (let's be honest -- all the lessons my wife has taught me). There's one lesson I've yet to write about, though. And I happen to believe it's the most important lesson I learned in my first year of marriage.
To celebrate his rite of passage into manhood, Seth Anderson wanted to drink the best made Manhattan, with his dear old dad, in Manhattan, where he was born as a native New Yorker exactly two decades and one year ago.
But there is some link, at least for me, between a happy home life and being a slug about everything else. That Josh loves me can't be the reason I love myself. That he thinks I am smart, competent and worthy can't be the reason I believe those things. It has to come from me.
He's a former fighter pilot and scholar on sex/relationships, raised in a strict Catholic household. She's a personal, career and relationship counselor, screenwriter and artist. Together husband and wife, Frank Wiegers and Judith Claire, have founded a website to help singles and couples with sex, love and romance.
There are some people who want love, but who close themselves off; their shells are closed. For a long time I counted myself among them. Then finally, after any other combination of things, we find ourselves dunked in the kind of situation that makes us finally open up.
When my second daughter Sophie entered the world, I worried that she would spend her life peering out from under the edge of her "larger than life" sister Emma's shadow.
I am a grown up. I have a thick skin, and I can get over this. For my kids, I am furious. I am furious that he can turn his back on my kids -- the children he took boating and fishing, the ones with whom he talked hunting and sports, the kids who call him "grandpa."
All at once, I was overcome with the weight of the moment and I found I couldn't take another step. Suddenly very aware of my frizzy hair and rumpled t-shirt, I retreated to behind a tree, my destination all but forgotten, and watched.
Summer is a time where baring more of ourselves can actually cause our self-esteem to plummet. But now's the time to love the skin you're in and embrace what's great about you. So while you're relaxing at the beach and building sand castles, here are several ways to build self-confidence.
Make a choice to consciously nurture your relationships with verbal communications of love. Be kind and sincere. Ask open-ended questions with an open heart. Listen empathically and non-defensively. Remember, there are no conditions, no strings, no expectations, and no manipulations. Simply, love to love.
One of the greatest perks of getting married is the whole "till death do us part" clause. Having someone who's always got your back, a partner who's there to listen, and a friend and lover who will cherish you through sickness and in health -- or so you had hoped.
This letter is a reminder; a reminder for myself. A reminder that there is a bigger picture than the picture we're certain we've seen before. This here is reminder that there is more to life than dollar bills and shiny cars. A reminder that we still have so much more living left to do.
There is one way to ensure the music of the summer reverberates into the fall and beyond. It is by discovering the song of the soul. The No. 1 hit will not be found on Billboard's charts or iTunes but inside of you and is waiting to be sung. It is music that will last forever.
Whatever it is, even if you are a misfit or a rebel or a sorority girl or an entrepreneur or a round peg in a square hole or all of those things at once, always make sure you are living the life you want, not the one others think you should.