This is Part II of "Love," started on the 8th of last month. I didn't plan on a Part II because I thought this little blog should be pointed and pithy...
I wrote a post last week about the reality of being a sex worker in a relationship, explaining that it's sometimes good, sometimes hard, often complicated. Well, I have intimate experience with one of the greatest media-fed taboos in sex-worker romances: I fell in love with a client once.
Politics is one of the four topics -- alongside money, sex and religion -- Emily Post says young ladies must never, ever broach on a first date. Here's why women should ignore that advice.
Each person will have to come to terms with their own fears in their own way. The most helpful first step is to have the intention to live without fear and then to seek every path that will help in realizing that intention.
As a businesswoman, I learned to think and act like a man because to rise to the top. Now, twenty years later, successful but single at the age of 37, I no longer feel comfortable in my "female skin."
Once you specify what you are looking for in a mate, it's amazing how quickly that person can arrive in your life. Or you may discover that someone who has been in your life for a while just happens to be exactly who you were looking for.
As you meet your next special someone, have the courage to overlook tiny imperfections. Too many of us overlook wonderful people in hopes that someone better might be right around the corner. Find the courage to be a little less scrutinizing.
He didn't really abandon me, since he couldn't really have stayed. If I can't be abandoned, and I can't control or fail to control someone else's behavior, then I can start to love.
OK, so we have bad rep. But there are people out there who find each other, get married, buy a house in Coral Gables or Belle Meade, and create 2.5 children. I know because I see them on Facebook.
Here is a seven-day plan to help make that first week after a breakup as pain-free as possible.
Jesus was more interested in love than he was in rules. That was what got him into so much trouble with the fundamentalists of his day
"I love you. Was just thinking how hard my fight has been and how tired I am... But then I thought about you and it gives me a shot of will power to keep going."
There's no reason I shouldn't tell him. She and I are seeing other people now. I'm over it. And yet I still can't bring myself to say the words.
The point is to show up, to be fearless about letting him know I see him and love him, and to stay put long enough for him to see and love me, too. If mantras help us get there, great. I'm open to it... but when all is said and done, it's up to me and my darling to live out the words therein.
To puzzle out whether this kind of romantic bargaining is worth the risk, it might be wiser to consult an economist than a relationship expert.
