Am I going to have to pretend I won't put my kids first if I want to climb to the top? And if I'm not willing to do that, is that the same as "opting out"? I'm in law school because I want to have a great career, but I refuse to accept that means I'll never have kids -- or, if I do, I'll never see them.
Dear Marissa, I am writing to give you permission, just as it was given to me. You haven't asked for it, and perhaps you are not even aware that you need it. But, because it's National Work and Family month, and you recently gave birth of your first child, I suspect you might need some -- permission that is.