The common signs of infidelity that we are all taught -- disconnection, lack of sex, change in hours and secretive behavior -- act as a distraction from the underlying issues that can destroy a relationship. It keeps you looking outside the union for threats when your gaze should really be turned inward. When you don't believe that it can happen to you, you will not see it coming.
Little did my husband and I know that a mere four years after reciting our vows, we would be asked to live up to them. That was when we discovered that Alex had advanced testicular cancer, and his surgery and chemotherapy treatment would begin right away.
People meet us -- a married couple of 14 years -- and shake their heads in major disbelief and wonder out loud often to me, "how the hell are you two still together?"
Most people see love and business like oil and water. But marriage is a legal contract. In fact, marriage is the greatest legal partnership most people will enter into in their lives -- and a family is nothing short of a corporation.
I still hold out hope that one day I'll wake up a completely different person -- one who prefers Capri pants to sweats and who summers at a beachfront cottage on some sort of cape with several other witty and charming couples.
You've heard this a thousand times: Do a weekly date night or your marriage will suffer. Sounds more like a threat than friendly advice, doesn't it?
Let's say that a child is born to a same-sex married couple (or registered domestic partnership or civil union). What do you think happens if that same couple later moved to a jurisdiction that fails to recognize their relationship?
You can find the answer to each of these questions by knowing which planet is transiting through your seventh house of marriage and partnerships. A "lucky" transit may bring a marriage partner into your life. Another transit may bring excitement into your current relationship.
Highly religious individuals are most likely to hold up traditional models of marriage despite the financial costs involved, including the loss of income when one parent cares full time for children.
A recent conversation about two friends who were enjoying a super second marriage with a bevy of nice kids and grands led to a bit of speculation about later marriage, divorce and why long marriages are going the way of dinosaurs.
Inside of me, there is a loving wife and a wanton lover. If I'm being honest, I think and desire things that don't necessarily fit neatly into the model of marriage as it stands today.
What if someone could tell you exactly what your relationship needs in order to thrive? With water, nourishment, and light, a healthy relationship can turn into an exquisite garden, but how much? When? How? Most people are thrown to the wind when it comes to relationships.
You want to be with the love of your life forever, and he with you, so always make your marriage a top priority (as in every day!). Here are some easy...
Taking our attention off of our partner will enable us to embody a higher level of vulnerability and encourage them to them to feel less defensive and consequently more inclined to listen to our concerns and needs with a more conciliatory attitude.
It's simple: people work better together than alone. To believe that you can stand alone and navigate the world by yourself might be a liberating experience, but at the end of the day it usually adds up to a poor day at the races.
Any contract that has at its essence an invalid clause is in and of itself invalid. So to me, every marriage is invalid as long as two adults are barred from marriage. It is an immoral clause, and a moral cause.