I know that we are busy trying to raise our family, excel in our careers and keep our heads above water. But, I can't do this without you. We can't do this without one another. Please, look at me and notice my hurt. Please stop what you are doing, turn off the tv and put down your phone -- then sit with me and let me release.
I'm approaching 30, and I've been dating him for over half a decade. We've lived in four cities together, and we share our home, our creative work and our dreams with each other. He's the one, and I plan to marry him. But not today. And even after all the progress we've made in the name of women's independence, I'm still shamed for it.
Whether you're from Mars or Venus shouldn't matter here. The secret is the same for all of us. Relationships aren't "work". I hate that phrase. If you're working too hard on your relationship, you may be with the wrong person. The real phrasing is that real love means growing and evolving and being open to that transformation together as a couple.
In my mind, I have focused on four or five things that I know are deal breakers for me. I have come to think of these things as allergens. Just as someone may be allergic to pollen or fur, I am hypersensitive to certain allergens. My body will experience an adverse reaction if I am exposed to these annoying and dangerous allergens.