In the case of the Ashley Madison leak, the public doesn't seem to care much about the gravity of the crime and the long-term consequences of the hack. The victims are cheaters, mostly male, and they deserve it all. It's a poetic karma in full force, right? Wrong, I say.
I was deeply moved this week. I am frequently moved when I meet with families in the privacy of my therapy office but this week I was particularly touched. I watched closely as a 15 year old teenage boy told his father that he'd like him to be more involved in his life.
Sometimes, sleeping with new people is a measuring stick of how connected you are to your spouse.
Sometimes I see individuals in therapy, or couples in couples' counseling, where one partner continues to insist that something is "just wrong" with the other. Usually, they are referring to a lack of empathy and a self-absorbed nature, but also a person whose behavior just seems "weird" or "off."
It's as simple as it sounds: tell your partner exactly what you like about their body -- ideally during sex, and ideally using your best dirty talk voice.
I worry about everything. I don't want to, but I do. My mom's the same way and her mom was the same way. I don't know about my mom's mom's mom, but I can't worry about that. I've too much else to worry about.
If you look deeply at yourself and you really try to feel for your partner, it may be that compassion will let you forgive. And if you can, if you can love each other enough to take it as part of the waft and weave of your marriage, then you've got something pretty strong.
So relax, Democrats. Republicans aren't really having better marriages because of their political beliefs or their neighborhood culture. Instead, much of the answer lies in two institutions, race and religion, that are even more fundamental to American society.
Narcissists are pretty obvious when they're in their full glory, but what you may not realize is that narcissism lives on a spectrum, and it's actually a fundamental developmental need that we all share.
I'm one of your biggest fans. I'm a Yankee, of course, but ever since my grandmother forced me to sit through Gone with the Wind when I was eight, I've had a deep respect for your determination and general pluck.
We've heard plenty about how having a baby can add stress to a relationship, but not so much about the rewarding ways in which things can change. I spoke to 10 women about how having a baby impacted their relationships...for the better.
When a child is born, parents think they are getting a gift. Little do they know that they'll inevitably lose us at some point, in one way or another. Some parents end up estranged from their children. But for parents of daughters, that little girl they cradled in their arms eventually leaves home.
In all relationships, we are in an ongoing negotiation of desires, boundaries, and capacities. Each of us needs to honor the other's desires and be as honest as possible about our own, knowing that we will sometimes feel disappointment in the face of differences.
Dealing with a lot of issues in my three year marriage. My husband has twin thirteen year old daughters and I have an adult son. My husband's ex-wife has never really accepted our happiness, always badgering him and telling the girls mean things about me.
Today is my anniversary. At exactly this time 25 years ago, I was in my condo with my best man getting ready for the most momentous occasion of my life -- my wedding. I was about to enter into a lifelong pact with my best friend, Annie. So much has transpired and changed for us since that day.
We need make our marriages more exciting. We need to make them more passionate. Do our wives really need to find this passion only in a fantasy novel about domination? Do our husbands need to ruin their lives by signing on to Ashley Madison and getting caught, when all they were going to find anyway was another guy?