A recent conversation about two friends who were enjoying a super second marriage with a bevy of nice kids and grands led to a bit of speculation about later marriage, divorce and why long marriages are going the way of dinosaurs.
Inside of me, there is a loving wife and a wanton lover. If I'm being honest, I think and desire things that don't necessarily fit neatly into the model of marriage as it stands today.
What if someone could tell you exactly what your relationship needs in order to thrive? With water, nourishment, and light, a healthy relationship can turn into an exquisite garden, but how much? When? How? Most people are thrown to the wind when it comes to relationships.
You want to be with the love of your life forever, and he with you, so always make your marriage a top priority (as in every day!). Here are some easy...
Taking our attention off of our partner will enable us to embody a higher level of vulnerability and encourage them to them to feel less defensive and consequently more inclined to listen to our concerns and needs with a more conciliatory attitude.
It's simple: people work better together than alone. To believe that you can stand alone and navigate the world by yourself might be a liberating experience, but at the end of the day it usually adds up to a poor day at the races.
Any contract that has at its essence an invalid clause is in and of itself invalid. So to me, every marriage is invalid as long as two adults are barred from marriage. It is an immoral clause, and a moral cause.
Along with the rise of marriage counseling in the 1950s, and a deep-seated fear of divorce, came the idea that marriage is work -- and that it's mostly the wife's job to do it -- and a slew of relationship "experts" and a multimillion-dollar self-help industry to help us with that.
We can ask for, participate in and commit to getting the full and direct experience that is love. After all, to love someone truly is to be interested and willing to create the experience that is love for them, and thus to become truly bilingual in the language of the heart.
I feel that my husband is like the air to me. Without the air, I'd suffocate. So do I love air? I suppose I do. I suppose I do.
Today I had the privilege to chat with singer-songwriter Tristan Prettyman about life, love, heartache, and what it feels like to be a woman in her early 30's.
If community is like a beautiful quilt that binds all of us together, then marriage is one very important set of stitches that connect the fabric of humanity.
At the same time I heard a voice -- clear as day -- ring out in my mind. It said, "He will not be the last man you love."
Barring a few outlying scenarios, there does not seem to be much need for alimony or palimony these days other than to be punitive.
Here are the three most common, unhelpful pieces of relationship advice along with what I now know are more productive alternatives.
Although we are not retiring, I now understand what women mean when they say, "I can't get used to him being home all day."