Melanie was no longer exhausted and depleted, nor was she getting sick so often. By defining her own goodness, she no longer felt that she had to prove her love to anyone. She knew she was a loving person and she knew that she deserved to be treated with caring and respect.
My husband, Jim, and I load up his Jeep Wrangler on Brookline Street in Cambridge for our anniversary trip. The summer light, oozy. The briny smell of the ocean, fresh off the Charles. Excited, like the kids we were in 1981 when we met by accident in Harvard Square. His college gang. My college gang. Bang.
In the end, no matter what your experience is, divorce is still going to be tough. What matters most is that you never lose sight of who you are and how far you've come.
On this day, 1/4 of a century ago, I was a little pregnant and a whole lot overwhelmed, for I was marrying a man that I did not love, wearing a dress not of my choosing, in a synagogue that I had no real relationship with.
Today I will give you some analogies to help you comprehend your husband's frustrating and mystifying behaviors, thoughts, and feelings. Like, really, understand them, not just say you understand while you secretly think he sucks.
On Showtime's hit series The Affair, premiering October 4th for a second season, Dominic West plays Noah Solloway, a man who seems to have it all: Hap...
You are likely idealizing the love that you shared with your ex. It was fraught with difficulty and a sense of doom, which made it more appealing and romantic, a la Romeo and Juliet.
I'm just going to come right out and say it: I indulge in the occasional fantasy about men other than my husband. I'll wait while you digest that Earth-shattering bombshell. Of course, my fantasies are not always hot, steamy, nights of passion and athletic sexual prowess either.
If you ever fall in love, fall in love with someone who... You can laugh with, but also cry with. You can joke around with, but also be serious with. You can enjoy the present moment with, but also envision a future with. You can enjoy nights out with, but also sit in comfortable silence.
Over the past several decades, marriage rates have fallen dramatically in the U.S. Many believe that a shortage of 'marriageable' men is the primary culprit.
I suggest that you and your husband speak openly about the bad place your marriage is in, and try to get some time together to talk or just do something fun together. When you feel closer, it may be easier for you both to empathize with each other, and to talk about how you have grown apart over this past year.
Don't be Joey when it comes to your divorce. Use the handy guide to demystify all the legalese heading your way.
Today I want to let go. Let go of the sadness associated with my past, the way I feel physical pain in my heart when I think of you, the humiliation I feel because of how I allowed you to treat me and the fact that I still care is just unbelievable to me.
I don't want you to pine for the love that we'll one day find and let your life pass you by. The last thing I want is for you to waste the time you have until you meet me. Please, continue to live your life boldly and -- for the moment -- forget about me.
Are you mind reading? Think about how this behavior has ever impacted your friendships, your relationships with family, and your work life. How different would our lives be if we stopped assuming, and started asking? I will not assume to know, but it seems worth finding out!
Aim to avert needlessly upsetting interactions by asking instead of assuming the worst about what your loved one feels and thinks.