Rather than take emotional responsibility for her own well being, Wendy was making Terence and her children emotionally responsible for her. She was abandoning herself, just as her parents had abandoned her, and was expecting Terence to give her what she never received from her parents.
When you're in love, it feels like nothing else matters. It's so easy and seductive to let your life go -- your friends, your interests, your beliefs, your hobbies. I get it. It feels good and it's fun and smoochy and yummy. You don't need anyone or anything else.
Many women complain about their husbands being passive, not initiating activities, laying around watching TV or clicking around on their computers, and overall not appearing to have much drive or passion.
You need a healthy fear of marriage like you need a healthy fear of the ocean," a friend poignantly remarked the other day.
The seductive glow that a stranger can elicit is thrilling. Polyamorous people call it 'new relationship energy.' The sudden affirmation that a newcomer finds you desirable is a real high.
Have you ever felt frustrated with our culture's current model of acceptable relationships- that is, monogamous pairing? Realized that in our world of social networking, we're losing real, close connections to others?
If you plan to get married please be willing to open your soul up. Communicate your inner most dreams and desires because those unfulfilled desires are what become resentments and anger.
My parents had always been less than stellar when it came to boundaries. With the divorce, however, the closeness has become too close. Some things are better left unsaid. Some secrets are better left hidden. The hardest thing about being an adult is the realization that, really, all adults feel like children.
It is your standards of happiness, love, values, personal development and responsibility that set your course in life. Have the courage to think as big as you can, expect nothing less than the best, and most importantly, be kind. Here are seven ways to exponentially elevate your quality of life.
You will be doing a service to both yourselves and your partners in dialogue if you share the conversation. Your relationships will likely improve in quality and last longer if you tweak your communication skills.
The bodies we are born into are no accident. Who we are is a gift.
Long term relationships: The goal isn't just to stay together forever; you want the years together to be good ones. With anything that unfolds over time, it's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day and not notice that something is slowly deteriorating right before your very eyes.
More than, "Do we have enough in common?" or "Can he finish my sentences?" I think the important question is: "Am I open and willing to work towards finding the gifts in our similarities and differences?"
I know in time, things will feel better. It really does help heal. I still have some really sad days. I have some incredibly happy days, too. On a lot of days, I feel both. But still I grieve... which for now, is exactly what I need to do.
You stop being the person who something was done to. You start creating a life you love, piece by piece, and it's authentic and genuine and fortified with the strength of your experience and sheer will to transcend bitterness and disappointment -- to step into the world fully.
In the realm of simplistic nonsense, few ideas are more insidious than the claim that you don't need money if you just, well, love each other a whole lot. This sentiment ignores the overwhelming financial stresses that clobber poor people every day.