You are likely idealizing the love that you shared with your ex. It was fraught with difficulty and a sense of doom, which made it more appealing and romantic, a la Romeo and Juliet.
I'm just going to come right out and say it: I indulge in the occasional fantasy about men other than my husband. I'll wait while you digest that Earth-shattering bombshell. Of course, my fantasies are not always hot, steamy, nights of passion and athletic sexual prowess either.
If you ever fall in love, fall in love with someone who... You can laugh with, but also cry with. You can joke around with, but also be serious with. You can enjoy the present moment with, but also envision a future with. You can enjoy nights out with, but also sit in comfortable silence.
Over the past several decades, marriage rates have fallen dramatically in the U.S. Many believe that a shortage of 'marriageable' men is the primary culprit.
I suggest that you and your husband speak openly about the bad place your marriage is in, and try to get some time together to talk or just do something fun together. When you feel closer, it may be easier for you both to empathize with each other, and to talk about how you have grown apart over this past year.
Don't be Joey when it comes to your divorce. Use the handy guide to demystify all the legalese heading your way.
Today I want to let go. Let go of the sadness associated with my past, the way I feel physical pain in my heart when I think of you, the humiliation I feel because of how I allowed you to treat me and the fact that I still care is just unbelievable to me.
I don't want you to pine for the love that we'll one day find and let your life pass you by. The last thing I want is for you to waste the time you have until you meet me. Please, continue to live your life boldly and -- for the moment -- forget about me.
Are you mind reading? Think about how this behavior has ever impacted your friendships, your relationships with family, and your work life. How different would our lives be if we stopped assuming, and started asking? I will not assume to know, but it seems worth finding out!
Aim to avert needlessly upsetting interactions by asking instead of assuming the worst about what your loved one feels and thinks.
They both went on to live their lives separately. Though they never lost the love for each other, they both married other people. But fate wouldn't let those last.
Sometimes it just doesn't sit well knowing that I am the keeper of the towels. Sometimes it feels daunting, degrading even, that all the dirt and the mess that happens on and all around my family members is there waiting for me.
By Jillian Kramer, Glamour You think you're prepared for marriage--why wouldn't you be? You've discussed money, sex, whether you want children, and...
Sometimes you will feel wistful, even nostalgic for times you know were not good. You will feel guilty and sorry that your children are "children of divorce." You will wake up crying at 3:00 or 4:00 a.m., mourning what was and that something fundamental to your existence is over.
I absolutely neglect my dishes and ignore my kids for the sake of reading, but there's more to it than that. But before I answer how I do it, let me tell you why.
The practice of "letting it be," no matter what or whom we apply it to, is really an invitation and permission slip to ourselves -- to drop into and be in this very moment, with what it actually contains, and to stop having to reject 'now' in the hopes of a different 'now.' This is the true gift of "letting it be."