Men aren't perfect. They've got some areas of improvement in the realm of manhood, husbandhood and fatherhood. But let's hit pause on that less-than-helpful story we repeat to ourselves and take a minute to turn it around.
If you both make health a priority, and make it team approach, you can help each other develop life long healthy habits.
The person who's truly right for you is probably cleverly disguised as the one you work with every day. Or the one who you've casually known in your circle of friends for five years. Who has seen you at your best and at your worst. And is still there, a big believer in your immense potential.
Throughout my life, having a solid stepladder has steadied me and helped me to reach higher. At first I might have tread lightly, but now my footing is firm. I just take it one step at a time.
It took me a long time to grasp this complexity, and I am still discovering what it means for me. I am grateful for those who help me know I dwell in a place of both/and, not either/or, where I can appreciate the wholeness of God and every human being.
Once you have children and a mortgage and a puppy that just had to come home with you for Christmas and jobs and a bottomless fridge that is never well-enough stocked no matter how many times you go to the grocery store, marriage changes.
A spouse that has gone through attachment trauma needs a strong relationship more than ever. Avoid allowing a trauma to tear your marriage apart. Seek help from a professional and begin working towards a stronger relationship for both of you.
When I was a teenager, my mother sat me down and told me, "You have a choice: Your father and I will either pay for your college education, or for your wedding." I told her, "College, of course." How else was I going to meet a husband? Why else would you go to a private liberal arts college?
Past behavior is often an indicator of current or future behavior, even in relationships. If he's done it before it only makes it easier to do it again.
By the time we reached the docks of Seattle we were a family again, hurts were starting to be healed, non-truths were exposed, a sad and difficult history had started to be repaired. A safe and loving foundation was built in preparation for further work.
Planning a wedding is an expensive and logistically complicated undertaking, and it is often the first (and only) large party you will throw. But you should never feel inferior, whether it's because you are in a wheelchair, can't afford a photobooth, or simply don't give a damn about the centerpieces.
Dating is a lot different at 30 than at 21. Things move faster and no longer do we have the pleasure of waiting years to "see what will happen." There seemed to be a slowly ticking clock hanging over each eligible bachelor I met. On my mental list of deal-breakers, "not Jewish" was merely penciled in.
Whether or not Gd/Hashem exists, this religion has made my daughter see the world as a benevolent place, to see a higher power as forgiving and loving -- and to feel this sense of security about her destiny in a way that my husband never will.
Deep down, I feared the trappings of marriage. I feared that marriage would make me give up independent thoughts and ideals.
Why did I spend my entire 20s so obsessed with the next thing? Why did I HAVE to check off all these "accomplishments" on my list so quickly?
After 47 years of marriage, five children and 14 grandchildren, my husband, Marc, lost his beloved wife to Alzheimer's. Phyllis's illness spanned 10 cruel, heart wrenching years during which Marc was her soul caregiver.