Take a minute to be "mindful" of you bad pressure habits --- the ones that prevent you from doing your best and prevent you from advancing yourself. Think about how you typically think and feel before and during your pressure moments. I would suggest writing down your responses and reflecting upon your reasons for why you respond as you habitually do.
Here are a few things I've done to help me be more intimate with my husband (often leading to some great sex). Some of these sound crazy, but stick with me.
I've learned a lot of lessons in my relatively short, 12 years of marriage; the usuals -- like not saying the "D" word, accepting that my husband doesn't always flush the toilet, and that throwing wooden spoons at walls while cooking makes more work for me than trying to prove how mad I was. But there are a few important lessons I've learned (mostly the hard way) that have truly helped save my marriage countless times.
This may sound easy, but with so many myths, misconceptions and piles of misinformation out there, it's actually quite hard to separate people's expectations from reality.
Let's face it: seducing straight guys ain't that hard. A little cleavage and some footsie is pretty much all it takes.
Over the last few years, I've received various reactions from the public about my articles on transhumanism. Those reactions have ranged all across the board--from spewing hatred to mocking skepticism to genuine interest.
Dear Eva: I have a serious problem with my future wife. I don't think she's been faithful to me. In fact, I know she hasn't been. I recently overhea...
I couldn't stop feeling like Black Girls Rock! was doing more than entertaining us. It was bonding us. Halfway into the show, Michelle Obama walked onto the stage and for some reason, I had a visceral reaction. Suddenly, I started remembering moments from my childhood.
It's a problem as old as the oldest civilization. We're not in the mood to have sex but our partners are. And sure, every once in a while, we'll buck up and take one for the team. But when we really, really don't want to be intimate, here are some of the excuses we've used.
Want to stay married past the exciting but perilous Empty Nest stage of family life -- when incidents of divorce spike like the polygraph printouts of pathological liars? Perhaps the solution is to write a Singles Ad.
I'm not here to tell you husbands are bad and wives are good. What I am saying is that in order to work on a relationship, you must first look at yourself.
Whether you realize it or not, divorce (like many other life challenges) has changed you. Shaped you. Strengthened you.
After commuting together and watching one another from afar for nearly two months, Susan finally worked up the nerve to end the mystery and asked to share a seat next to John. The two formed an instant connection and have been married ever since.
It's human nature to protect ourselves from pain. A small child only has to learn once not to touch a hot stove. Likewise, our animal brains quickly learn what experiences--and what people--to distance ourselves from so we don't get burned again.
Hey, how's your midlife crisis going? Mine's great, thanks for asking. I can no longer read anything on my phone, my teeth are cracking by the day, I question every decision I've made since I was 21, oh -- and this is key -- I've taken to wearing a flower in my hair. Why? I have no idea,
Months ago, when the separation from my husband was still fresh and raw, I joined an online dating website. I know. I know.