Too often in relationships you say you want peace, but find yourself creating war. The old adage, "sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you," is actually not true, and the memory of those hurtful words can sting for a lifetime.
I don't write this article as someone who has never had skeletons in my closet. Rather, I write this from the perspective of somebody who has been emancipated from them. Let me tell you, boy does that lightness feel great. Never again and I am not lying.
I imagine many have been racking their brains with excuses to give if their information - including profiles with all their secret sexual fantasies and matching credit card transactions, real names and addresses, and employee documents and emails - ends up being released.
You may think that total honesty would kill your marriage, but lying already has, so you don't have much to lose. Besides, it is likely that your wife is so fed up with you lying that she would welcome hearing your internal monologue without a filter.
Life is a journey of learning, shifting and growing. May yours be filled with amazing ventures and paradigms.
Sweet revenge. The need to get back at someone and make them pay ... because they caused you pain and deserve to feel the same way. Right? I get it. ...
Dear Anna, there will be Christian voices that will say you need to stay with Josh. They will tell you that you should forgive him. But Anna, you don't have to stay to forgive. I can't tell you what you should or shouldn't do, but I can tell you, and every woman in your situation, that you have choices.
You're supposed to starve a fever...right?
Even if the quoted registration numbers are inflated (which I suspect they are given the ease at which I could create a fake account with a made-up email address), there's no doubt there are millions of people who are staying in marriages that leave them hungry for intimacy, both sexual and emotional.
Whether or not you share each others' passions or life ambitions, when you truly care about someone you want to see them succeed and be happy in whatever they love. This means standing beside them, not in their way, when they dedicate effort towards pursuing a goal.
Single with no backup at home, I would hire babysitters to go out for mom's night, only to realize it wasn't enjoyable. No, not because I felt guilty leaving my kids with a sitter. It was because the sole topic of conversation revolved around children.
I can't speak for other couples, but I can share my own experiences and what this first year has taught me about my relationship, myself and marriage in general.
Most women stay in unhappy marriages because of their children, even though as a whole they feel more empowered to support themselves and to create a new and better life. This would lead us to believe that there's an enormous amount of women out there who are living in an expired marriage, and this could very well include you.
As a strong, independent woman, I can confidently reiterate that women are a necessity in all heterosexual men's lives. The woman you're dating should enrich your life. In fact, she should make it so amazing, that you can't wait to marry her.
I'm turning 30 on August 20, and in honor of this somewhat-momentous occasion, I thought it might be nice to share some of the things I've learned over the last three decades.
There probably aren't many people who haven't heard the words "marriages take a lot of work." This is a good thing to be aware of prior to making a marital commitment. Knowing that that's the way it is, minimizes the likelihood of feeling surprised or broad-sided when the inevitable breakdowns occur.