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Mediation

When Divorcing, Beware of Meddlers!

Mark Baer | Posted 07.28.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I was recently contacted to potentially mediate a litigated divorce matter prior to trial, which is rapidly approaching. My name had been included on a list from the attorneys, along with two other mediators.

Amicable Divorce Is the New Black

Michelle Crosby | Posted 07.06.2015 | Divorce
Michelle Crosby

America's beloved celebrity couple, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, known colloquially as "Bennifer" marked their 10 year anniversary this week with a divorce.

How Do You Tell Your Children That You Are Getting a Divorce?

Jim Halfens | Posted 06.26.2015 | Divorce
Jim Halfens

Despite parents' best intentions, the wrong approach can create irreparable damage that follows children into adulthood. For this reason I consulted my mediators to come up with useful advice based on our experiences with divorcing parents.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Final Part

Mark Baer | Posted 06.26.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Since this is the final article in this series, I am finally going to share the answer I gave the attorney colleague of mine who asked me the following question: "Any thoughts on how to make money as a family lawyer when you're not prepared to screw the other side?"

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part VI

Mark Baer | Posted 06.19.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

A great many of my family law attorney colleagues believe that mediation only works under such narrow circumstances, that almost no cases are appropriately suitable for it. They believe that mediation is only effective in family law cases under the following circumstances.

What First Impressions Do You Make in the Gay Community

Vince Pellegrino, Ph.D. | Posted 06.11.2015 | Gay Voices
Vince Pellegrino, Ph.D.

Having lived for many years in one of the most populated cities in the world, I have had the opportunity to make first impressions with countless others of the years. Oftentimes, I would wonder what first impressions am I making when I meet a stranger for the first time?

Overcoming Self-Doubt: Tame Your Inner Tormentor

Melanie McKinnon | Posted 06.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Melanie McKinnon

Self-doubt will creep in from time to time, and that pesky tormentor will keep bugging you. Just remember that you are in control of your life and the things that affect you. Don't give anyone who makes you feel worthless an extra second of your time.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part V

Mark Baer | Posted 06.04.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I'm going to say it over and over and over again until my last breath -- "Mediation" that is handled as a "settlement conference," but with a "mediator" rather than a judicial officer is not mediation.

Here's How To Reflect, Meditate And Sustain Positivity

Posted 06.12.2015 | Healthy Living

Dulce Ruby is an explorer and an artist of written, visual and audio formats. Her GPS Guide below will teach you about meditation, reflection and how ...

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part IV

Mark Baer | Posted 05.19.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On July 10, 2011, Joan T. Daniels, Esq. posted the following comment on the listserv for the members of the Family Law Section of the Los Angeles Coun...

A Case for Mediation

Mallory Stevens | Posted 05.13.2015 | Business
Mallory Stevens

Everyone wants to feel heard, and, particularly in conflict -- when emotions are often inflamed -- it's easy for understanding to be compromised and agreement to seem impossible. Mediation, a form of alternative dispute resolution, can remedy that.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part III

Mark Baer | Posted 05.13.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Part II of this series ended with the following question from an attorney colleague on the listserv for the Family Law Section of the Los Angeles Coun...

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part II

Mark Baer | Posted 05.04.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Except for the years I was in Juvenile Dependency court, where mediation was available for each case set for trial (but not presently, because that court system does not now have the funds to do so), I can count on the fingers of one hand the times when opposing counsel suggested mediation.

Divorce and Fear: How to Cope

Jenny Kanevsky | Posted 06.27.2015 | Divorce
Jenny Kanevsky

I have been paralyzed by the fear; but I can't stay in paralysis. I have to function as an adult, be a mom, and keep my panic quiet to protect my kids.

Is the King Solomon Story Really About Mediating or Judging?

Mark Baer | Posted 06.27.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

It's amazing how many ways Biblical text can be interpreted and the fact that the same people are willing to interpret the exact same text differently for their own selfish and self-serving purposes, as the need arises.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part I

Mark Baer | Posted 06.26.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On April 23, 2015, I read an article titled "Solid negotiation skills crucial for family lawyers," which I felt was an important read for both the public and my colleagues. I therefore shared the article over the social media and with the members of the listserv for the Family Law Section of the Los Angeles County Bar Association.

Secrets of a Successful Divorce Mediation

Alison Patton | Posted 06.21.2015 | Divorce
Alison Patton

Sometimes spouses still can't hear or relate to one another's perspective, even after mediation, but as long as the mediator listens and can honor each spouse's feelings, that can be enough to get the parties to a resolution.

The Hardest Thing I Had To Say During The Divorce Process

Kasey Ferris | Posted 06.20.2015 | Divorce
Kasey Ferris

In the middle of a divorce, you never really know what's coming.

Why You Must Meditate 12 Minutes a Day

Jon Wortmann | Posted 05.13.2015 | Healthy Living
Jon Wortmann

We want to be mindful all the time. It is not an option. But meditation is a special kind of mindfulness and it really needs to be a part of every day. Here are five insanely powerful reasons why. I hope they convince you to start today -- maybe even right now.

The State Bar of California Intends on Silencing Its Members

Mark Baer | Posted 05.07.2015 | Politics
Mark Baer

If the Bar does decide to require certain disclaimers in lawyer blogs, how does that impact previously published blogs over which the attorney does not have editorial control?

Litigation Should Come with a Warning

Mark Baer | Posted 04.01.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

When children are involved, parents often continue to have a relationship. Mediation can help to develop better channels of communication and to build new, appropriate relationships after divorce or separation...."

Don't Call My Stepkids 'Baggage!' Your Trash Just So Happens to Be My Treasure

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 03.23.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Do I mind that my stepkids are referred to as leftover "baggage?" You bet, I do.

Lawyer Paternalism Is A Very Serious Problem

Mark Baer | Posted 03.20.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

The "temporary incompetence" of clients due to their emotional state and the attorneys' paternalistic attitude toward clients create a lack of understanding on the part of both the attorney and the client. This is the legal equivalent of a ship that hits rocks, runs aground, veers off course, and possibly sinks.

Conflict Resolution and German Reunification

John Feffer | Posted 03.19.2015 | World
John Feffer

When I met Jamie Walker in 1990, she was a specialist in mediation and conflict resolution. She worked in this capacity from her home in West Berlin, becoming involved in the peace movement, doing violence-prevention work in the school system, and eventually pioneering efforts in mediating cross-border family conflicts.

Helping a Person Live Like They Were Dying

Don McNay | Posted 03.06.2015 | Business
Don McNay

Lori sought a medical solution to help her lose weight and the solution caused her body to die. I've been fortunate that my weight loss surgery has been a success in its first month and that maybe the medical world has found a solution that works for people like me. The attempt with diet pills was definitely not the answer.