I encouraged crying. I think we cry when we're in the presence of truth. I think cry-talking is what happens when the soul is in on the conversation. Tears are part of the body's purification system. They are sacramental, like baptismal waters.
In my mind, the solemnity of major surgery reminds us that our mortal self is not all there is. Once we recognize this -- truly cashing in the meaning, not unlike those near-death experiences -- our lives change.