That darn agreement took months, maybe years, to negotiate and finalize. The court papers? They followed what feels like a lifetime of anguish. Yet, after all that, you're not completely sure you know what you need to do next. The agreement is longer than The Bible, and full of legal gibberish.
People get really discouraged when they've dated a few people here and there and still can't find anyone who is "right" for them, or when something goes awfully wrong in what was supposed to be the perfect relationship. here's a list of important reminders we tend to forget when we get lonely, lack a love life, or are tired of dating.
Over the past month, I collected about five broad points --that I dubbed as "rules" -- that were most often repeated by married couples in the UAE I perceive as "being happy" or content anyways
It's like knowing you like brunettes but start dating a blonde, and then nine years into it you break up with her, saying, "Sorry, I just never liked your hair." That's not her fault -- it's yours
Are you as done with winter as I am? I've never seen our friends and neighbors in more need of a spring break in the sun! While it may be cold and sno...
In all areas of life women often settle for less. I think of this as a low-fat version of love, including self-love, by substituting what we really want for what we think we can get and then trying to pretend we're more satisfied than we are.
One day I met a man who helped me redefine what my sexuality means to me. This guy, whom I will refer to as "James," was attractive: He had this way with words, and a smile that took my breath away. James happens to be transgender; he was assigned "female" at birth.
So, you've got it bad for "the one" -- you know, the one that keeps you awake at night fantasizing about the day when you can be together. Wait a second. We aren't talking about that one -- we're referring to a different kind of love affair: a "home crush."
I'm not a believer in pragmatism and convention in love, though. I'll take my chances, foolish as they may be, because what I know now that I'm in my 50s is what I've always known deep inside.
In honor of Valentine's Day I chose this Monday to post Max, a friend with whom I'd developed a two-month flirtation that culminated in a hook up. It was great, until he fell off the face of the planet.
It took me years to realize how destructive the pursuit of perfection really is. Thinking you have to do things perfectly and/or be perfect is like carrying around a heavy weight on your back, and it absolutely crushes happiness.
Some have even dubbed it a "movie-like" relationship as it seems to be rare for a father and daughter to be so close. There are many reasons I am grateful to you, but in honor of a day set aside for celebrating love, I wanted to thank you for a few.
I realize online dating wasn't the genesis of this myopic conception of love, but it has reinforced it to a tremendous degree. Here are the chief problems caused by encouraging us to find "the one" or our "soulmate."
Even if you are crazy for that new special someone and can already see yourself marrying them one day, restrain yourself this Valentine's Day. There will be plenty of other V-Days down the road. Doing too much can overwhelm your date.
Punishing court orders pelt you until you can hardly see straight. The motions keep coming; you're in court all the time. Child Protective Services is pounding down your door and your in-laws are pressing charges. You're broke; you're incarcerated; you're terrified. Sound like a nightmare? For many, it's reality.
While I'm all about achieving one's career dreams, as a dating coach helping women create healthy, happy dating lives and relationships, I can't help but ask: What about love? Might it also be helpful for women to "lean in" to their love lives? I think so.