Today we are together. I don't have a name for what we are. I am not "dating" her, because I have decided with my heart, that I am in a relationship with her and we are not just casually getting together.
Here's the good news: You already know what your spouse likes. The simple truth is that what lured him or her into your marriage is your most effectiv...
I got to thinking; how many kinds of sex are there? Oh, come on, you know you were wondering too! Let us begin.
I am NOT "cisgendered." I reject that label. Why? From what I've read, "cisgendered" is a label that began in academic discourse as a way of describing people who weren't trans. But the meaning of it was akin to what we might call "normatively gendered."
So, you've been going out for a while now. You're really feeling this guy and you can tell there's a mutual attraction. The vibes... my God, the vibes. He drops you off at your door, smiles that little smile, says he had a great time and leaves. No kiss. Ugh!
Do not let the labels mother, daughter, sister, wife, or girlfriend limit or define you. You were born in the presence of those who love you most and if you live a good life, may you die surrounded by those who you love the most.
I have singles tell me all the time they want love to "just happen." Well, that can only happen if you are in a mental and emotional place to receive the positive attention of others.
When you truly love someone you're not interested in possessing the person or keeping him or her in your clutches because you're afraid of losing the relationship. Instead, you respect your partner's autonomy and spirit.
My friend Sam is a "confirmed bachelor," and I'm using air quotes as I write this. Years ago, before you could swing a dead cat in a Banana Republic without hitting an openly gay man (which I would not recommend), that was code for being gay.
I believe in order to find our lover we need a fairly clear picture of what they might be. Way beyond looks, the construction or destruction happens over the course of the initial weeks of "dating."
For now, I'm just tossing my hat into the ring and offering you an opportunity for romantic fulfillment. The ball's in your court, Sharon.
You'll forever have leverage over him because it was only after a whole year that he finally agreed to come to yoga with you... and now he's so hooked that he goes without you.
If you're a guy who's only capable of functioning sexually with women with perfect bodies, continue your hapless pursuit. But if you're a guy who sees beauty in terms other than perfection, then you already know how beautiful and desirable boomer women are. And you probably own a full-length mirror and are aware that your attractiveness to women isn't tied to perfection either.
1. Put in writing what type of relationship you hope to find -- both short term and long term.
For me, if sex is not akin to a glass of well-aged Rioja -- spicy, tantalizing, with a good, strong finish -- then it's just better not to have it at all.