It is my firm belief that times are changing in the world of divorces and I do hope the changes will go faster than they have over the past 25 years, because trust me, in most cases it is no longer necessary for people to live under unnecessary and uncertain circumstances against expensive costs during their divorce procedures.
Most of us are raised on fairytales and Hollywood (mostly the same thing). For years we believe that our perfect someone is out there, our singular soul mate -- and we wait for him (or her).
Men will listen. Just ask kindly. We must speak from our heart. Ask open-ended questions, which require a real answer, that we must promise not to take personally. No one needs to purposely destroy the other; there is no right or wrong, just two different people.
Are your efforts and commitments for the short term or the long of it? One engenders trust and self-honor, the other, advertises that not you or anyon...
And then I got her text. As it turned out, I'm great. There was no physical attraction. She felt badly that things turned out this way, but I had grown to mean a lot to her and she hoped we could continue to hang out. It was up to me to decide.
If I had a nickel for every time I heard a man say that "unlike most guys," he "really likes" to go down on women, I would have enough nickels to build a life size statue of a man going down on a woman. And then I would auction it off on eBay, because I have children, for God's sake.
If we lack confidence, it's from playing it safe for way too long. It comes from hiding out and sticking our toe in rather than both feet. We won't know if it's safe, until we venture all the way in, and if the water is too cold, we can choose to try a warmer, more receptive place to jump in!
You need to say thank you. It can be a tiring place, this happily ever after. Yes, there is love and there are kitchen dances and sweet cream baby cheeks. But there are also sleepless nights and mortgages and post baby stretch marks.
What works with one person does not seem to work with the next! The poor guy just figured out their last girlfriend and now it turns out their new one works COMPLETELY DIFFERENTLY! Who would do that? What is this? The seventh level of hell?
The biggest benefits of online dating are the ability to deliberately craft a great first impression (that can't be messed up by nerves) and to stretch yourself to date differently than you have in the past.
Optimal relationship behavior is often learned and many divorcées are out of the loop when it comes to new relationship behavior because we have become accustomed to the same habits of our ex.
Maybe some people could remove themselves from that situation, flip an on-off switch. I am not one of those people. When I let people in, I inevitably begin to care. It is both a blessing and a burden.
How happy are you with the life you've created? Are you working a job you hate or building a career that resonates? If you haven't dealt with your own happiness all by yourself, stop reading now. If, however, you know what you want, this is for you.
Facebook has helped many people reconnect with long-lost friends and stay in the orbit of people we've just met. But as many others have observed, social media sites have a downside. Namely, they make a lot of people feel like crap.
In my book, The Ecstasy of Surrender, I discuss how a soul mate must be wil...
I know a few boomer women who have given up sex. Their primary reason is that they're not in relationships and they're not interested in casual sex. While most of these women would like to become sexual again, they prefer to wait for the in-love version.