As you focus on yourself, you learn to love yourself. When you love yourself you become that elegant, confident, graceful, desirable woman who commands the right kind of attention and praise. Why? Because people can feel you have it together inside and out.
You would be surprised how painful sexual rejection is for men. Often, I see couples in which the man still remembers and is hurt by a sexual rejection occurring even years ago, at the start of the relationship.
Joy has got to be the biggest turn on there is. You can feel it when someone enters a room and they are glowing with their own inner happiness. If you've got the joy to reflect it back to them, then perhaps you are both on your way to joy in life and joy in the bedroom.
It has been several months since the move and that wedge has become the center of our cozy, little apartment. I look back and can't quite figure out what all the angst was about. I had ascribed so much meaning to that couch, but, in the end, it really didn't matter.
I'm a professional development coach, and I know that people can't be forced to change. They can be encouraged and helped to feel safe and confident enough to make changes that they feel ready for, but thanks to this crazy thing called "free will," people cannot be forced to do what you want!
People hardly talk on the phone these days. We text. Send pics. Tweet. But can you really get to know the essence of a person in these superficial, limited interactions?
It is my firm belief that times are changing in the world of divorces and I do hope the changes will go faster than they have over the past 25 years, because trust me, in most cases it is no longer necessary for people to live under unnecessary and uncertain circumstances against expensive costs during their divorce procedures.
Most of us are raised on fairytales and Hollywood (mostly the same thing). For years we believe that our perfect someone is out there, our singular soul mate -- and we wait for him (or her).
Men will listen. Just ask kindly. We must speak from our heart. Ask open-ended questions, which require a real answer, that we must promise not to take personally. No one needs to purposely destroy the other; there is no right or wrong, just two different people.
Are your efforts and commitments for the short term or the long of it? One engenders trust and self-honor, the other, advertises that not you or anyon...
And then I got her text. As it turned out, I'm great. There was no physical attraction. She felt badly that things turned out this way, but I had grown to mean a lot to her and she hoped we could continue to hang out. It was up to me to decide.
If I had a nickel for every time I heard a man say that "unlike most guys," he "really likes" to go down on women, I would have enough nickels to build a life size statue of a man going down on a woman. And then I would auction it off on eBay, because I have children, for God's sake.
If we lack confidence, it's from playing it safe for way too long. It comes from hiding out and sticking our toe in rather than both feet. We won't know if it's safe, until we venture all the way in, and if the water is too cold, we can choose to try a warmer, more receptive place to jump in!
You need to say thank you. It can be a tiring place, this happily ever after. Yes, there is love and there are kitchen dances and sweet cream baby cheeks. But there are also sleepless nights and mortgages and post baby stretch marks.
What works with one person does not seem to work with the next! The poor guy just figured out their last girlfriend and now it turns out their new one works COMPLETELY DIFFERENTLY! Who would do that? What is this? The seventh level of hell?
The biggest benefits of online dating are the ability to deliberately craft a great first impression (that can't be messed up by nerves) and to stretch yourself to date differently than you have in the past.