The soft padded chair envelopes me in memories of my father, the leather worn where his arms once rested. I run my fingers over the smooth patches to get a sense of him, breath deep the scent of leather and success. From this chair he managed a real estate and banking business, arranged our summer vacations to the Southwest and designed his dream home in Montana.
I know a person who's having a midlife crisis. It isn't a secret; that's part of the crisis. His issue comes down to an excess of sex that he talks about excessively. His best friends don't mind that he's scoring more than LeBron James in a heated playoff -- they just wish he'd stop flaunting it.
As Father's Day approaches, I think about my father. As boys, our first relationship with a man is with our fathers. This is especially important for gay males, since our adult love relationships will be with other men.
There comes a moment in every potentially romantic relationship when you either strip off and take the plunge or you pass, and let the opportunity go by. The longer the dry spell you've been through, the harder it is to get wet.
The first rule about dating in the Internet Age is that there are no rules about dating in the Internet Age. (Well, maybe just one.)
So what was he to you and what were you to him? Were you both just distractions? Were you both just bored? Was this relationship on your phone just convenient and easier than actually having to meet someone?
The age old adage, you're as beautiful [irresistible, wonderful, whatever] as you think you are, certainly applies. I've gone through eight well-earned lessons that are applicable to any woman seeking to be an irresistible supernova.
To most people, being in a relationship means that you have someone that is always there for you, a constant support system, and an indefinite friend to share experiences with. In the majority of cases, this is a worth-while set up, but for some of us it truly isn't all that simple.
Steak on the outdoor grill: It's the iconic summer meal, and doing it to perfection is an art that every man must master.
Asshats. We've all been in love with at least one. Haven't we? If you haven't, do me a service and lie.
Let's take a closer look at how pervasive our own blind spots are and see where, in society, we're most likely to change.
I still hate it when dating guides tell women that men will like them better if they're aloof or withholding. Any guy who needs you to act like a bitch in order to be interested isn't worth having, in my mind.
We cannot stay quiet when our sisters, mothers, daughters, cousins, and friends are being harassed. When our girlfriends have been harassed or abused in the past. When our peers and fellow men are the ones doing the abusing. It should cause absolute outrage in us. It is unacceptable.
Though they may be slaying the spider in the bathtub instead of dragons, you know what it means to have found someone who saves you in little ways each day. Even princes need a few reminders that they are appreciated.
This should be easy. After all, you are independent. You are empowered. You are a catch. So why then, are you still single?
Be strategic: As soon as you receive the invitation, call the future bride or groom and get a sense of who's who on the guest list. Don't be shy about being in touch with both sides of the bridal party (it'll double your chances.)