The point of my visit is to give him a sense of family, to help him connect and feel less alone, yet from the moment I walk in, I'm guarded. Pleasant, but not warm. Interested, but not caring.
If you are divorcing a narcissist, you need to be prepared that your spouse will put on the greatest show of their lives -- divorce is the ultimate opportunity to showcase their role as the victim/martyr.
A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. Though many of them had positive observations, a lot of what they had to say dealt with their male companions being self-centered, boring, arrogant, duplicitous, needy and/or unwilling to commit (sometimes, impossible as it sounds, at the same time).
When people decide to divorce they often understand that they will have to divide up property. They often think that they are doing so in exchange for their personal freedom. But the fact is that their personal freedoms are significantly more infringed upon once they are divorced than they ever were while married.
I've made it a rule in my personal life to never apologize for loving people, even if that love is never returned. To be unloving is the other person's problem, not mine.
Through the years it got harder to go on such shopping excursions with my daughter and I got less and less knowledgeable about the options. Have you ever tried to navigate a women's lingerie department? Give it a try and let me know how you fare.
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With men, it is really common for actions to speak louder than words. Understanding his physical cues can sometimes be just as important as what he is saying to you. Here are some signs to look out for that there may be more to what he's saying
There's a strange phenomenon that can occur when talking to someone we might be romantically interested in, versus conversing with almost anyone else -- friends, coworkers, clerks, servers: Alien life-forms take over our mouths. We clam up. Or we say inane things.
I am 64 and I have a boyfriend. The absurdity of this situation is not lost on me. First of all, how the hell did I get to be 64? One night I'm exiting the dance floor, all hot and sweaty, heading for the coat-check just before "last call" and in no time at all I wake up a senior citizen.
Especially if you're shy or tend to be anxious, those first date jitters can translate into full blown dating anxiety, which can be paralyzing. The days and hours leading up to a date can be worry-filled, and you may even avoid dating altogether if it's too intense.
I have previously written on the need for alimony reform. California law affecting what we call "spousal support" creates a situation where the supported spouse has, in many cases, little if any incentive to work.
Why are men suffering more from loneliness? Simply put, women are better at aging than men. They are more likely to go to the doctor if they are ill and often enjoy cooking and socializing more than men do. They will chatter about problems or engage with others and are good at looking after themselves.
I open the envelope, the glossy pictures sticking to my fingers and to one another. The first one I don't recognize -- it's somewhere in the woods, but not my woods. The second one I don't recognize either -- it's cliffs and water, yellow flowers. Confusion crawls over me.
As night falls and darkness rolls in, I picture you sitting there, knuckles white as a ghost as you clasp your cold phone, laughing hysterically with your girlfriends. Laughing because I said too much, or maybe too little, or took too long.
Every computer-age gadget is deployed to bad effect in Jason Reitman's satiric new movie, Men, Women, and Children, and that's the least of the targets of his scrutiny: how about sex, ambition, and most of all, power, particularly of the parental kind.