I have come to consider myself a poster child for the joys of being an empty nester. My nest has been empty for three years with daughters in New York, Atlanta and until recently, Boston. These years were exciting and fulfilling for me as I pursued my own passions and watched my adult children creating their own lives.
Forty is a time contradiction and complexity, a.k.a. horrifying reality and inner turmoil. It's realizing that these are the days of questioning every decision, wondering about regrets, and realizing that life is short, and getting shorter every freaking day. It's when the terrifying reality sets in that yeah, THIS is life.
It's not just that Caitlyn Jenner looks good. It's the amount of courage she has to have to put herself out there, first on television as a man, and then on the cover of Vanity-freakin'-Fair as a woman. And not a young woman, either. Jenner is 65-years-old -- midlife, but approaching her senior years.
Around the table our ages ranged from 48-59, of which I'm on the lower end, but not lowest (though I'm holding on to that like a pageant girls' sash), so after catching up with the lives of our mostly grown kids, you can imagine conversation quickly moved to how our bodies have morphed over the years. Not just weight gain, but some seismic shifting too.
Listen Up Ladies of a Certain Age. You know, you 40 to 60-year-old women. Midlife Ladies. What I see and hear you doing when you are public speaking and in social situations has got to stop. It probably starts earlier, but we are women who have seen a little bit more and done a little bit more so we should know better.