If there's one lesson we should have learned in the debate over gay service, it's that "don't ask, don't tell" was never about military effectiveness. It was a moral and political abuse of power, propped up by a ban on speaking truth to that power.
Newborns feel no need to lie, defend, or be other than who they are. They simply are, unlike we older ones, well-schooled into acting roles. Perhaps newborns are too busy with the work at hand: growing!