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Miscarriage

The Pain I Didn't Think I'd Survive

Ayesha Vardag | Posted 05.26.2015 | Parents
Ayesha Vardag

I tried to get on with normal life, but I'd find myself at a party in London and just be seized with the need to get away, to get to Roger's tree, to water it and make sure it was thriving.

3 Reasons I Haven't Told People I'm Doing IVF

Melissa Miles McCarter | Posted 05.18.2015 | Parents
Melissa Miles McCarter

I am afraid because it means having to do a lot of explaining about a subject that is emotionally difficult to talk about with others.

To The Friend Who Is on the Fence About Adopting a Baby

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 05.13.2015 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

A pregnancy involves conception and ultrasounds and birth plans and stretch marks. Adoption involves stacks of paperwork, no "due date" and many uncertainties. However, the end result is the same: parenthood.

5 Ways to Support a Family Expecting a Rainbow Baby

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

If you know a mama expecting a rainbow baby, one of the most beautiful things you can do is sensitively validate her feelings, and empathetically follow her lead. I am so grateful to my family and friends who've done just this, and in doing so, have allowed me to celebrate the rainbow in my belly, honor the angel in my heart, and cherish the sweet child in my arms.

Honoring the Choices: Infertility

Laura Collins Lyster-Mensh | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Laura Collins Lyster-Mensh

Infertility, for me, has been reabsorbed and accepted. But it took a long, largely invisible, time. I am a different woman for it.

9 Ways To Cope After A Miscarriage Or Stillbirth

Dr. Margaret Rutherford | Posted 05.10.2015 | Fifty
Dr. Margaret Rutherford

If you are not trying to have a baby, then you may never know you miscarry. Yet many couples are proactively trying to become pregnant. They may be in denial about how many miscarriages actually occur.

Anna Almendrala

7 Miscarriage Myths That Are Harmful And Isolating

HuffingtonPost.com | Anna Almendrala | Posted 05.08.2015 | Parents

A troubling percentage of American adults believe that miscarriages are rare and caused by a woman’s negative lifestyle choices, stress or physical ...

5 Things You Should Know About Mother's Day and Pregnancy Loss

Ann Zamudio | Posted 05.07.2015 | Parents
Ann Zamudio

Too many Mother's Days are spent overlooking women who don't have living children. Let's take the opportunity to change that this year. Remember all the mothers in your lives, especially the ones who might be hurting.

If the World Were Perfect

Aidan Donnelley Rowley | Posted 05.07.2015 | Parents
Aidan Donnelley Rowley

If the world were perfect, if everything went according to plan, I would have a 9-year-old tomorrow. It isn't. It didn't. I won't.

Forgive Me For Not Fawning Over The Royal Baby

Lauren Stevens | Posted 05.04.2015 | Parents
Lauren Stevens

When I lost my third baby, I knew what to expect in the coming months. I knew that progress reports on the royal baby and Kate Middleton's health would be intermittent reminders of yet another loss.

Blaming myself

Denise Geelhart | Posted 04.24.2015 | Parents
Denise Geelhart

Part of me still worried that I would suffer another loss if I got pregnant again. At 42, the odds were that I would lose another baby. But all I could do was hope that I would not deal with the heartbreak again.

Why I Did 7 Rounds of IVF

Tina Donvito | Posted 04.20.2015 | Parents
Tina Donvito

Why would any sane person go to such extremes to have a baby? And if the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result, does that mean I was nuts?

Imagine You Are Infertile

Lauren Casper | Posted 04.20.2015 | Parents
Lauren Casper

Imagine finally seeing a little plus sign after so many negatives. Imagine the dreams and plans you make. Imagine beginning to put together a nursery and picking out names. Then imagine leaving the maternity ward of the hospital with empty arms and an empty womb.

The Clothes That Hid My Loss

Katia Bishops | Posted 04.19.2015 | Parents
Katia Bishops

I remember everything I wore. The unfathomable dichotomy between inside and out. I was wearing my optimism dress leaving the fertility clinic that morning, carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders and a huge question mark in my belly.

When You Miscarry Early, It Still Matters

Rachael Clarke | Posted 04.16.2015 | Parents
Rachael Clarke

It matters for every woman who has lost life within her, who has lost the promise of a precious baby in her arms, who has felt like she should be quiet about her story. Because, really, we don't talk much about such things. We should.

You're Still a Mother on Mother's Day if You've Had a Miscarriage

Robin Cassady | Posted 04.16.2015 | Parents
Robin Cassady

Recently, I was asked if it would be appropriate for a man to buy his wife a Mother's Day gift even after the loss of their unborn child.

The Things We Leave Behind

Christine Organ | Posted 04.07.2015 | Parents
Christine Organ

The plant may have been a memorial to our pain and grief, but over time, it came to symbolize our strength and resilience. Despite our pain, or maybe because of it, Matt and I grew infinitely closer as a couple during that time.

Men Have Miscarriages, Too

Ann Zamudio | Posted 04.08.2015 | Parents
Ann Zamudio

I never once stopped to ask my husband how he was handling the loss. After all my introspection and self-discovery, the one thing that escaped my notice in the weeks after the miscarriage was that it wasn't my loss -- it was our loss. I am not alone in making this mistake.

I Had A Miscarriage At Work

xoJANE | Posted 04.04.2015 | Women
xoJANE

Although the fear and confusion of that moment have since faded, the profound sense of loss lingers very close to the surface and that's okay. It's okay to be sad about losing something you didn't want. It's natural to be frustrated when your right to a decision was bypassed.

Even 'Easy' Losses Are Difficult

Christine Skoutelas | Posted 04.03.2015 | Parents
Christine Skoutelas

No matter how much I believe that my grief is silly or my grief is selfish or my grief is self-indulgent, my grief doesn't care. I can squash it down for a while, or tuck it away in a corner, or rub it raw with my joys, or scrub it clean and sparkly, or run far away from it, but for some reason I can never seem to rid myself of it, not completely.

How I Turned My Miscarriage Into Something Good

Ann Zamudio | Posted 03.30.2015 | Parents
Ann Zamudio

When someone asked me why I wasn't feeling well, I told them I'd lost our first child. When an old friend asked me about the pregnancy that I'd announced so early, I told her it ended in miscarriage. And the most amazing thing happened -- the world didn't end.

Being Grateful for What Followed My Miscarriage

Robin Cassady | Posted 05.27.2015 | Parents
Robin Cassady

Losing a child during pregnancy or after birth at any time can change your life. I chose to allow it to strengthen me and teach me what to appreciate and be thankful for.

It Took A Miscarriage For Me To Realize My Marriage Was Over

Divorced Moms | Posted 05.23.2015 | Divorce
Divorced Moms

Pain rushed through me, only it wasn't in my stomach, but my heart. Was this really happening? Did he just walk away?

It's None of Your Business How Many Kids I'm Having

Tina Donvito | Posted 05.17.2015 | Parents
Tina Donvito

Asking the question presumes a lot. It presumes that the woman is not currently pregnant. It presumes that she is not currently experiencing a miscarriage. It presumes that she's not experiencing postpartum depression and is emotionally ready for more children.

Our Silence Only Strengthens Our Suffering

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 05.16.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

If you stay silent, I can pretty much guarantee it will be difficult to find the support and love you will so need in this lifelong journey of loss and recovery.