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Miscarriage

Now Is The Time To Talk About Your Pregnancy Loss

Ann Zamudio | Posted 06.23.2015 | Parents
Ann Zamudio

To so many of the people fighting through this, it can bring an incredible amount of comfort to hear that they're not alone.

With Gratitude To Dads Who Parent (And Partner) Through Grief

Alana Rosenstein | Posted 06.16.2015 | Parents
Alana Rosenstein

"How is Alana doing?" It is a question my husband has been asked frequently in the three and a half years since our pregnancy losses began. His ability to carry on after loss is assumed. Mine is apparently cause for concern.

This Is Me Trying To Take On Motherhood

Andi Wickman | Posted 06.12.2015 | Parents
Andi Wickman

Before I was a mother, I was teaching English in Taipei, driving through Slovenia, taking sake bombs in Japan, sipping absinthe in Paris, dancing on bars in Austin and in bomb shelters in Jerusalem. I even swam with fish in Croatia. Sitting still has never been my thing.

10 Things To Do When Someone You Know Has Experienced Pregnancy Loss

Alana Rosenstein | Posted 06.04.2015 | Women
Alana Rosenstein

Don't minimize the precious child she has lost by saying she can always have another child, she was "only" at 10 weeks, or at least she has another child. She is grieving a life that lived inside of her -- for however short a time -- and that life and loss deserves honor and respect.

A Woman Loses More Than the Baby After Her Miscarriage

Robin Cassady | Posted 05.28.2015 | Parents
Robin Cassady

As a survivor of miscarriage, it is hard to not feel like you have lost your self-worth after miscarrying your pregnancy. You feel like a complete failure to yourself, your significant other, and to that child. You lose your sense of empowerment as a woman and it is hard to get it back.

Why I Talk About My Stillbirth

Alana Rosenstein | Posted 05.27.2015 | Women
Alana Rosenstein

When I was pregnant or trying to conceive, I hated hearing stories about pregnancy loss and stillbirth. It wasn't just because I felt sad for the families involved (though I certainly did); I wanted to pretend that such losses didn't happen to women like me.

The Pain I Didn't Think I'd Survive

Ayesha Vardag | Posted 05.26.2015 | Parents
Ayesha Vardag

I tried to get on with normal life, but I'd find myself at a party in London and just be seized with the need to get away, to get to Roger's tree, to water it and make sure it was thriving.

3 Reasons I Haven't Told People I'm Doing IVF

Melissa Miles McCarter | Posted 05.18.2015 | Parents
Melissa Miles McCarter

I am afraid because it means having to do a lot of explaining about a subject that is emotionally difficult to talk about with others.

To The Friend Who Is on the Fence About Adopting a Baby

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 05.13.2015 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

A pregnancy involves conception and ultrasounds and birth plans and stretch marks. Adoption involves stacks of paperwork, no "due date" and many uncertainties. However, the end result is the same: parenthood.

5 Ways to Support a Family Expecting a Rainbow Baby

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

If you know a mama expecting a rainbow baby, one of the most beautiful things you can do is sensitively validate her feelings, and empathetically follow her lead. I am so grateful to my family and friends who've done just this, and in doing so, have allowed me to celebrate the rainbow in my belly, honor the angel in my heart, and cherish the sweet child in my arms.

Honoring the Choices: Infertility

Laura Collins Lyster-Mensh | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Laura Collins Lyster-Mensh

Infertility, for me, has been reabsorbed and accepted. But it took a long, largely invisible, time. I am a different woman for it.

9 Ways To Cope After A Miscarriage Or Stillbirth

Dr. Margaret Rutherford | Posted 05.10.2015 | Fifty
Dr. Margaret Rutherford

If you are not trying to have a baby, then you may never know you miscarry. Yet many couples are proactively trying to become pregnant. They may be in denial about how many miscarriages actually occur.

Anna Almendrala

7 Miscarriage Myths That Are Harmful And Isolating

HuffingtonPost.com | Anna Almendrala | Posted 05.08.2015 | Parents

A troubling percentage of American adults believe that miscarriages are rare and caused by a woman’s negative lifestyle choices, stress or physical ...

5 Things You Should Know About Mother's Day and Pregnancy Loss

Ann Zamudio | Posted 05.07.2015 | Parents
Ann Zamudio

Too many Mother's Days are spent overlooking women who don't have living children. Let's take the opportunity to change that this year. Remember all the mothers in your lives, especially the ones who might be hurting.

If the World Were Perfect

Aidan Donnelley Rowley | Posted 05.07.2015 | Parents
Aidan Donnelley Rowley

If the world were perfect, if everything went according to plan, I would have a 9-year-old tomorrow. It isn't. It didn't. I won't.

Forgive Me For Not Fawning Over The Royal Baby

Lauren Stevens | Posted 05.04.2015 | Parents
Lauren Stevens

When I lost my third baby, I knew what to expect in the coming months. I knew that progress reports on the royal baby and Kate Middleton's health would be intermittent reminders of yet another loss.

Blaming myself

Denise Geelhart | Posted 06.24.2015 | Parents
Denise Geelhart

Part of me still worried that I would suffer another loss if I got pregnant again. At 42, the odds were that I would lose another baby. But all I could do was hope that I would not deal with the heartbreak again.

Why I Did 7 Rounds of IVF

Tina Donvito | Posted 06.20.2015 | Parents
Tina Donvito

Why would any sane person go to such extremes to have a baby? And if the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result, does that mean I was nuts?

Imagine You Are Infertile

Lauren Casper | Posted 06.20.2015 | Parents
Lauren Casper

Imagine finally seeing a little plus sign after so many negatives. Imagine the dreams and plans you make. Imagine beginning to put together a nursery and picking out names. Then imagine leaving the maternity ward of the hospital with empty arms and an empty womb.

The Clothes That Hid My Loss

Katia Bishops | Posted 06.19.2015 | Parents
Katia Bishops

I remember everything I wore. The unfathomable dichotomy between inside and out. I was wearing my optimism dress leaving the fertility clinic that morning, carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders and a huge question mark in my belly.

When You Miscarry Early, It Still Matters

Rachael Clarke | Posted 06.16.2015 | Parents
Rachael Clarke

It matters for every woman who has lost life within her, who has lost the promise of a precious baby in her arms, who has felt like she should be quiet about her story. Because, really, we don't talk much about such things. We should.

You're Still a Mother on Mother's Day if You've Had a Miscarriage

Robin Cassady | Posted 06.15.2015 | Parents
Robin Cassady

Recently, I was asked if it would be appropriate for a man to buy his wife a Mother's Day gift even after the loss of their unborn child.

The Things We Leave Behind

Christine Organ | Posted 06.07.2015 | Parents
Christine Organ

The plant may have been a memorial to our pain and grief, but over time, it came to symbolize our strength and resilience. Despite our pain, or maybe because of it, Matt and I grew infinitely closer as a couple during that time.

Men Have Miscarriages, Too

Ann Zamudio | Posted 06.07.2015 | Parents
Ann Zamudio

I never once stopped to ask my husband how he was handling the loss. After all my introspection and self-discovery, the one thing that escaped my notice in the weeks after the miscarriage was that it wasn't my loss -- it was our loss. I am not alone in making this mistake.

I Had A Miscarriage At Work

xoJANE | Posted 06.04.2015 | Women
xoJANE

Although the fear and confusion of that moment have since faded, the profound sense of loss lingers very close to the surface and that's okay. It's okay to be sad about losing something you didn't want. It's natural to be frustrated when your right to a decision was bypassed.