It was the phone call no mom wants to get -- the call that says your baby is hurting, your baby needs you, and you're 600 miles away.
When anyone gives anything with good heart, he or she becomes a philanthropist -- a conduit and a catalyst for love. So, if you think you have nothing to give, think again.
My constant worry about rushing off to the next place or checking off the next thing on the list of things to get done was stressing out my kids.
My mother gave my five siblings and I some of the pictures from a huge cardboard box filled with pictures and photo albums. The box sat on the top shelf in my parents' garage. Today, I looked at some of those pictures to see if I could see them through my mother's eyes.
Stuttering was always considered a flaw. It was something that I had to live with for the rest of my life. Something that could be fixed -- maybe -- but would take years of effort. Everyone stutters at some point or another but for me it happened more often than I'd like and at times there was nothing I could do to fix it.
I am proud to say that I am the perfect mother. I have a perfect husband who is likewise, a perfect father. We have a perfect marriage. So naturally, we have perfect children and a perfect family. Before you pass a quick judgement on me, let me explain further.
When I first decided to go on the journey to inner discovery, I made a list of things that I needed to do. On the top of the list was stop being angry at others, forgive others that have hurt me, stop the resentment etc.
It was a shallow, ridiculous terror-thinking that 30 was old. But it was also only a symptom of a larger mistake -- a misuse of time.
The big days of the year and the big celebrations of life will never go 100-percent according to plan. They will never be perfect. And once we accept that, it becomes a whole lot easier to relax and let the genuine love, gratitude, and goodwill flow. And ironically, that's the exact moment when those special days really do become perfect.
What I am trying to say is that when we were created to be different, why do we even try to fit in a certain mold? We think being the same is cool yet I think the beauty of the world lies in us all being "abnormal"!
My reinvention of my life was in "creating" the person I was meant to be. While it hasn't been all that easy becoming a writer and author -- there were days I cried, beat myself up mentally, and wanted to rage at the world to get my writing noticed -- it was worth every minute of the journey.
All days can't be like this. If they were, no one would do yoga or cry and drink wine and write blogs about parenting.
The truth is, I'm kinda scared shitless. But worry never changed an outcome. And while fear is a main character in life (as is failure), it informed the plot much more when I was young and it made decisions for me.
It's such a delight to revel in the pleasures of life! What you focus on, expands -- and Tony Robbins is right. If you keep flowing energy to some...
So many moments, I think. So many moments when the invitation is possible. Whether it's accepted or not is irrelevant. So many moments when we are thinking the same thing in exactly the same way. So many new ways to breathe. An offered hand.
In my 30s, it's no longer a question of when my masterminded plans will pan out -- but whether I actually want the things I penned into my five-year plans, and if so, what I'm willing to give up to get them.
This process and practice starts with getting a one-way ticket to where you are, focusing your attention and concentrating on your environment, acknowledging how you're feeling, clearing your mind of other vehicles that are trying to transport you away from that scene.
Love: It's the most work and the least work. It's the story we wait for as little girls. It's the story we warn our daughters about. It's the story we accept against all odds. It's the one thing, the one emotion and the one action that demands every bit of commitment.
If I enjoy where I am right now, my journey will be that much more exquisite. And as far as destination, there is none, really. As soon as we reach one milestone, we focus on new things that excite and inspire us.
The good news is that not every unexpected experience has been about escaping death. Instead, several have brought unexpected lessons for a happier life. Three recent lessons have proven themselves to be particularly happiness-building. I present them to you now..