Money can be a source of friction in many relationships. Through open communication and shared ownership, a safety net and a strong plan for long-term savings, couples can come out of the money talk more financially savvy and connected than ever.
Whether it's credit card spending or the secret cash stash, it's not healthy for a marriage to have secrets -- financial or otherwise. Broken trust and hurt feelings from financial secrets will put a wedge between a marriage. Often the damage is irreversible.
If a couple embraces the tracking of money as a way of supporting each others survival, the idea of counting dollars becomes a powerful way to say "I love you" to each other. They can feel like they are working together so they can not only survive, but thrive -- together!
With all the media chatter about "Kim-YE" I thought it appropriate to discuss our own personal relationships. Yes... we all know that Kim and Kanye West are both multimillionaires, but do you know the financial picture of the person you are dating?
I worry about maintaining independence while "letting the man be a man." If I offer to pay for anything, I worry I've emasculated the guy, which is the last thing I want to do. This, in turn, makes me wonder if I should stop offering. But then I worry: Will he think I'm a "gold digger"?
How compatible are you and your partner when it comes to money and finances? Many couples have different values where money is concerned and neglect to take the time to hash out issues that can potentially ruin their relationship.
An analysis of any relationship should include a cold and painfully honest awareness of oneself. What traits make you happy? What traits make you unhappy? What can you live with? What can't you live without?