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Motherless Daughters

Reflections of a Motherless Mother

Tracy Brown Hamilton | Posted 05.18.2015 | Parents
Tracy Brown Hamilton

I navigated my 20s and 30s without a mom. I graduated from university, started a career, lived in several states and countries, went to graduate school, got married and divorced and married again, went to graduate school again, had three children. And she doesn't know any of this.

On Being a Mom Without a Mom

Kristina Cowan | Posted 05.14.2015 | Parents
Kristina Cowan

I saw no silver lining in my mom's young death. She was 46 and I was 15. It ushered in my life, 2.0, a time when I came to view the world through catastrophe-colored lenses -- something with which I still struggle.

For Mom on Mother's Day 'Ode to Peggy Coyne'

Chef Rossi | Posted 05.08.2015 | Fifty
Chef Rossi

I learned a lot from Peggy Coyne. Peggy was the CIA of sample sales, the Lois Lane of letters -- small town, simple and lethal.

Getting Through Mother's Day When You're a Motherless Daughter

Jeryl Brunner | Posted 05.07.2015 | Women
Jeryl Brunner

I'm grateful that Hope Edelman wrote her beautiful life-affirming book, Motherless Daughters. For more than two decades, she and her groundbreaking work have comforted countless women.

Mother's Day And Navigating The Sorrow/Joy Line With Grace

Lisa Goich-Andreadis | Posted 05.06.2015 | Women
Lisa Goich-Andreadis

To ask friends "What does it feel like to have a baby inside of you?" "Does birth hurt?" "What is it like to breastfeed?" makes me realize that I'm no longer the master of anything. I am the student. They have surpassed me.

If Only Mother's Day Were Every Day

Liza Long | Posted 05.05.2015 | Parents
Liza Long

Part of the reason I usually leave town is that I'm uncomfortable with Mother's Day and always have been.

What Losing Your Mother Feels Like

Rachael Oakes-Ash | Posted 03.22.2015 | Women
Rachael Oakes-Ash

Losing a mother is like being on a ship that has lost it's ballast and is now at the mercy of the deepest ocean and all it holds within. I bob around without a foundation to bring me back to the same balanced spot each time, a spot I just can't get right.

Without My Mom

Val Geisler | Posted 03.10.2015 | Parents
Val Geisler

In death, my mother is whole, complete and more present than she was ever able to be in her body. She's present in me.

The Education Of The Motherless Daughter

Kathleen Smith | Posted 02.04.2015 | Women
Kathleen Smith

With enough kindness towards youtself, enough head pats and good snacks, you grow fond of the person you are because of, and in spite of, losing your mom.

How My Mom's Death Changed My Definition of Family

Rachael Rifkin | Posted 01.26.2015 | Women
Rachael Rifkin

When I'm shopping and I see something she might like, I think about how much she loved chocolate and the color turquoise. And how strange it is to know that I won't be buying her anything anymore.

When Grief and Absence Decorate Your Holiday Table

Erica Ford | Posted 01.26.2015 | Parents
Erica Ford

My childhood family may have fallen apart, but my mother is still here. She's in me, in my children. I still won't make that fancy lonely Thanksgiving feast like my mother did, but they're going to know how important they are.

17 Things I Miss About My Mom on the Anniversary of Her Death

Jodi Meltzer | Posted 01.10.2015 | Women
Jodi Meltzer

I miss her flip phone. She was the only person I knew who had one... and had her ringtone set to Abba's "Take a Chance on Me" to complement her whole retro non-techie vibe. She had no idea how to text and, most of the time, she had no idea where her phone was. It was part of her charm.

Grief In the Rearview: Three Motherless Years

Nicole Belanger | Posted 11.16.2014 | Women
Nicole Belanger

I assumed that it would be loud, dramatic and chaotic. I thought that my body would collapse under the weight of the grief, that I would be so beside myself with sadness that I would be unable to function.

My Complicated Relationship With Breastfeeding

Emily Hatch | Posted 10.29.2014 | Parents
Emily Hatch

What a wild ride breastfeeding has been. I've never been so determined to do anything, or so ill prepared.

Why Did This Happen? Estranging Myself From My Mother

Katie Naum | Posted 08.30.2014 | Women
Katie Naum

Why did this happen? There is no answer to that question. There are too many answers to that question.

I'm Motherless By Choice

Katie Naum | Posted 08.02.2014 | Women
Katie Naum

There is no easy way to say, "I'm estranged from my mother." It's even harder to say, "I've cut my mother out of my life," clarifying that you are the one who has severed the bond.

Mother's Day Kind of Sucks...

Elizabeth Golluscio | Posted 07.12.2014 | Women
Elizabeth Golluscio

Happy belated Mother's Day, to all of you who may still be finding your mom -- even after you've lost her.

It Took Me 49 Years to Truly Understand My Mom

TueNight | Posted 07.12.2014 | Fifty
TueNight

While my mother and I didn't actually share the last three decades, now I know what it means to work at a marriage, to be a working mom and to watch my children struggle and blossom.

Finding Comfort on Mother's Day When Your Mother Has Passed Away

Jeryl Brunner | Posted 07.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Jeryl Brunner

For many of us who have lost our mothers, Mother's Day and the days leading up to it can be so painfully difficult. We're bombarded by endless commerc...

What I Know About Being A Daughter Now That I'm In My 30s

Claire Bidwell Smith | Posted 07.08.2014 | Women
Claire Bidwell Smith

My mother died when I was 18 years old. We were just beginning to know each other as adults, finally leaving behind the drama of my adolescence and the tedium of childhood. Now that I'm in my 30s, here's what I wish I could tell my mother.

Just One More Day

Lisa Farnham and Ashley Taylor | Posted 07.07.2014 | Parents
Lisa Farnham and Ashley Taylor

I wanted one more phone call, one more visit, one more chance to tell her the latest funny Abby story or something amazing Emma had learned in school.

Motherless Daughters on Mother's Day

Chef Rossi | Posted 07.07.2014 | Women
Chef Rossi

Taking the car service back to Manhattan, I didn't feel the cast-out sensation anymore. I looked out at the families coming back from brunch with Mom, happy and giddy. I spent the day with my mom, too! SO THERE!

Mother Hunger

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 05.13.2014 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

Losing my mother was one of the most gut-wrenching experiences of my life. Not a day passes that I don't think about my mother and what she would think of me.

A New Normalcy

Rachel Levy Lesser | Posted 11.16.2013 | Women
Rachel Levy Lesser

My mother is dead, and I am still happy. I think about my friend who lost her mother when she was 15. I used to wonder how she could function so well when she was motherless. I told myself that I'd be a basket case in her shoes. Maybe people think that about me now?

My Kids Will Know My Mother In The Way I Love Them

Claire Bidwell Smith | Posted 07.08.2013 | Parents
Claire Bidwell Smith

When I tuck my girls into bed at night, when I smooth Vera's hair away from her forehead when she has a fever, or scoop Juliette into my arms after a tumble, my heart spilling over for them, I often find myself breathless with the realization of just how much my mother loved me.