We all know the tell-tale signs.... a hand over the right ear of the driver in front of us, someone driving 50 miles per hour on the Interstate. Or, the slow "lane drift" as the driver in front or beside you slowly creeps into your lane and then corrects his lane tracking before he does it all over again.
I was working with a group of women last week on the idea of creating a WANT to do list vs. reacting to a NEED to do list. This is an exercise that I enjoy doing with people, where we take a step back from our need to do, should do, have to do mindset, and reframe our thinking to developing a want to do, love to do, look forward to doing list.
When frenzy shows up, our emotional brain hijacks our cognitive brain, and we are spinning. How we react in that very moment has a huge impact on whether life unravels or if we muster the energy to deal with the problem the best we can. Often our reaction at that very moment will determine how we feel for hours, days or even weeks ahead.
Make a decision that your health and well-being are your single most important asset, and begin living your life to protect it. Take a personal stand that this is not the way you want to live, and this is not the behavior you want to role model for your children. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.