When frenzy shows up, our emotional brain hijacks our cognitive brain, and we are spinning. How we react in that very moment has a huge impact on whether life unravels or if we muster the energy to deal with the problem the best we can. Often our reaction at that very moment will determine how we feel for hours, days or even weeks ahead.
Make a decision that your health and well-being are your single most important asset, and begin living your life to protect it. Take a personal stand that this is not the way you want to live, and this is not the behavior you want to role model for your children. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.
One should never assume that it's impossible to slow down, or that by doing so, someone is going to shame you for it. Learning to stay focused isn't going to lead you to less work, but it will certainly help you to manage stress, allow you to do more, and generally provide a smoother working experience.