For many years now, there have been on-going controversies over the question of whether the N-word can be used in friendly or endearing fashion; or whether there are different standards for use of the N-word by Blacks and all others
We have made tremendous progress as a society when it comes to racism. However, we have by no means conquered it. It would be a great thing if no one ever used that word to slur a black person again, if the use of all hateful slurs simply ceased.
Did this guy really think it was OK to call me that because he and I are both Latino? I switched gears and jumped on my soapbox, telling him about my distaste for that word and how I did not want him to use it with me again. I felt like a lecturing schoolteacher.
Hip-hop has globalized "nigga," morphing its role into much more than the casual conversational term that it served as for decades exclusively within black America. So should blacks in America be mad at this harsh reality?
A whole lot of people are making a big deal over the fact that Paula Deen may have uttered it within the past 30 years. As if she is the only 66-year-old Southern white woman who has done so. As if she is the only public figure who has done so.
We can't begin to get along entirely if we don't seek answers from each other about the roots of our biases. In fact, that's one issue I have with the Paula Deen episode. So far I haven't seen in any of her interviews questions as to why she felt it was OK to use the "N" word.