I encourage all caregivers to remember that there is no "one-size-fits-all" approach to providing care. Accept that you will make mistakes. Control what you can control and let go of the rest. You didn't ask for this situation, but you are here and stepping up to care for your loved one. That is an amazing undertaking!
As the primary caregiver for my father during the last eight years of his life, I know only too well the personal challenges and rewards caregivers and their families experience. But when we realize that in 2009, 62 million family caregivers provided over $450 billion in care, we see that the personal challenges of caregiving also have significant public policy implications.
Over 20 years, my husband required dozens of surgeries. I started taking notes about Caregiverville because, as Nora Ephron famously said, 'everything is material; someday you will think this is funny.' Not that being a caregiver is a laugh riot. But when there are moments of levity, you either seize them or go mad.