When you love intensely you also leave yourself open to great pain. Now all my son can feel is the hurt. One day he will feel love again. I promise.
Other than letting go of our reasons why it's not possible, there is nothing more useful we can do to make this a great year. Doing so is the heart of your personal transformation.
Instead of a list of things I predict will happen in 2013, here is my list of things that I hope will happen in 2013, either because they would bring me joy or at the very least be hilarical!
Now that you know what resolutions you won't keep, which ones are you now actually ready -- no, more importantly committed -- to stick to and make happen for you?
It may not look like it, but this moment is the most powerful time to shift your story. This month, the planet celebrates a new beginning. Summing up the past, we're given the opportunity to witness who we really are beneath the charade, writing a fresh, preferred chapter.
In a move that many neighborhood councils are calling "encouraging," new federal legislation has been rushed through that requires anyone caught simply tossing a used Christmas tree on the sidewalk for someone else to deal with to be forced to eat it.
Personally, I always find myself making resolutions that are less about health and more about self-development. This year, among others, my resolutions include: to increase patience, to be less judgmental, and to be a "better" person (ambiguous, I know).
With 2013's arrival, much like a gardener using a shovel to prepare for planting (then one day, harvesting), I invite you to explore your faith, facts and fictions with the following questions (shovels) over the weeks and months ahead.
Stop it with your awful promises and vows for 2013. In this edition of Weeklings!, I announce the gay-ish resolutions I'm making, and maybe you'll subscribe to them, too. Wait till you see what's on my "reading" list.
Now that the fireworks have faded and the hoopla of the new year has passed, it's on us to keep ourselves inspired throughout 2013. Here's one way to begin: Dump your list of resolutions.
I've learned that if I want to make a change and I want to make it stick, I have to commit to it on all levels -- inner and outer.
You may think that people with HIV are no different from anyone else, and you're right, for the most part. But if you are living with HIV, here are a few ideas for resolutions you may want to think about for the coming year, in no particular order.
The strategy that has helped hundreds of my patients over the years is one that replaces self-doubt, fear, and anxiety about making changes with a sense of certainty, control, and fearlessness. Here are my surefire steps to successfully sticking to your fitness goals for 2013.
Both of my kids have huge hearts and engaging minds. But those descriptions are vague, trite. If I hope to get a year's worth of material, I need to be specific. I need anecdotes and things to praise. I need an open mind and eyes that stay open. I need to pay better attention.
As we pause during this unique time of transition, why not resolve to taking back our lives through intentional choices? In 2013, let's choose to pause deeply, treat ourselves kindly, and include pause as a best practice for creating more connection, meaning, and fulfillment.
External controls never work long term. Eventually, we get fed up and rebel. Only an internal change can become a way of life. So how do we achieve an internal shift that will help us obtain and maintain our ideal weight?